this book was a memoir with endless list of psychics, mediums and spirits facilitators. i usually don't rank memoirs but this one i had to push myself to finish. Her mothers journey was remarkable. she was Chinese in Vietnam and fled to a refugee camp. college educated she came to America for better but OfCourse was met with blockade after blockade. Susan Lieu honestly opens up about her family’s story, and the trauma in dealing with the loss of t her mother. the book is full of trauma and meeting parental expectations.

This book had lots of intersectional stories of trauma, healing, and reciprocity that were well-written. The medical trauma and familial challenges were quite heavy, and this book was definitely very sad and reflective. I think the writing was great, and this book had a lot of important things to say.

Interesting life story and perspective. Lieu shared her experience of her unique family in vivid detail, and I was glad to have widened my worldview.

Enjoyed reading through Susan’s journey of meeting her family where they are and understanding the way they dealt with her mother’s grief.

This book was funny, dramatic, and reflective.

I think that The Manicurist’s Daughter is a good debut. The writing was well crafted and a lot of passion went into this book.

Readers who come from a Vietnamese family and can relate to the cultural aspects of the memoir will have a deeper emotional connection to it. The author has trouble learning more about her late mother because her family discourages discussing her.

There is frustration and sadness in the story, but it’s balanced with humorous moments, as well as some tender memories.

I think that most readers will find this memoir a quick read. For me, there were slow moments, but I don’t think that will be everyone’s experience.


I would recommend this to anyone who likes an emotional memoir, but especially to those that can relate to the grief or the cultural identity!

Really enjoyed this one! A great book, great characters and interesting storyline. Will keep this author on my radar!

Rating memoirs is always a challenge for me, but The Manicurist's Daughter by Susan Lieu is such a tender and emotional story of a family's immigration to the US after the Vietnam War.

Many thanks to the author, publisher, and NetGalley for sharing this book with me.

In this moving memoir, Susan Lieu describes her own family's history, and the life after her beloved mother passed away after a tummy tuck operation by a malafide surgeon.
Susan takes the reader back to her family's history; after five failed attempts, they escaped by boat from post war Saigon, and landed in California in 1980. Susan's mother was the leader of the family, and on her own, she set up two very succesfull nail salons, where Susan and other family members who where brought over from Vietnam to the USA by her parents worked, a true family run business. Until that horrible day when Susan was eleven years old, and her mother's tummy tuck operation went horribly wrong, with a fatal ending. Susan was cross with her mother and told her she hated her, the next day, she was in coma she never came out of.

After that, what's left of Susan's family falls apart. Her father is a broken man after the death of his wife. But her family isn't that into talking about feelings, so they don't talk about her mother's death at all. But Susan is left with so many feelings, questions, intergenerational trauma and questions; why did her mother want to change her body? Body image was important for her mother, the mother who demanded what Susan ate, but criticized her daughter's weight on the other hand too. The surgeon who performed the tummy tick was known to prey on Vietnamese women for patients, and advertised in papers read by the Vietnamese communities in the USA and he continued his malpractice altough he didn't have any malpractice insurance. Susan realizes that she never knew anything about her parent's past in Vietnam. Susan travels to Vietnam to learn more about who her mother was, and who she discovers, never truly knew. Susan is an artist, and she created a theatre show with the the loss of her mother as topic, to cope with it and as a mechanism to connect with her mother.

I found this a beautiful written and very moving memoir. My heart broke for Susan, whose life never was the same again after the sudden passing of her mother, and she had to deal with all these complex feelings, and find a road to healing on her own. A road with a lot of bumps, where Susan seeks inner peace in a questionable and money demanding yoga cult. I found it sad to read that her relationship with her father and sister was strained and complex, because they where not into talking about the death of her mother, which was so important for Susan's grieving and healing process. Both a coming of age story and a research for her mother's past life, this book is very moving, emotional, tragic but also inspiring. A book that will the fans of the memoir Crying in H-Mart will certainly like. This is a memoir I truly recommend!

This book was so emotionally charged, despite being from a different culture than mine the themes of motherhood and womanhood are universal and I found the book to be both informative and touching.

"The Manicurist's Daughter" is a poignant and deeply personal memoir that delves into the complex emotional journey of Susan Lieu, the youngest daughter of a Vietnamese immigrant family. I was captivated by the raw honesty and vulnerability Lieu brings to her exploration of grief, family dynamics, and the relentless pursuit of answers surrounding her mother's untimely death.

Lieu skillfully weaves together the threads of her family's successful nail salon business, the strong work ethic and survival skills instilled in her and her siblings, and the devastating loss of her mother, Jennifer, who passed away in her 30s from complications of a botched plastic surgery procedure. The author's vivid descriptions of the daily operations of the family's nail salons, and the ways in which young Susan was incorporated into the business, offer a fascinating glimpse into the immigrant experience and the value placed on family, hard work, and self-reliance.

What truly sets this memoir apart is Lieu's unflinching examination of her own grief, her strained relationship with her mother, and her family's reluctance to confront the painful details of Jennifer's death. The author's persistence in uncovering the truth, through acquiring legal depositions, traveling to Vietnam, and ultimately creating a theatrical piece to process her emotions, is both admirable and heartbreaking. Her vivid recollections of the fraught final moments with her mother, and the lasting impact of those unresolved feelings, are deeply poignant.

"The Manicurist's Daughter" is a powerful and important work that grapples with the universal themes of grief, family, and the complex legacies we inherit. Lieu's courage in sharing her story, and her willingness to confront the painful truths about her mother's death and her own role in it, make this memoir a compelling and thought-provoking read. It is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the enduring power of love and connection, even in the face of unimaginable loss.

Thanks to NetGalley for an early copy of this book.

The Manicurist's Daughter is a memoir that I would recommend to any reader interested in Asian American memoirs or nonfiction books about the beauty industry.

Thank you to Netgalley and the publishing company for this Digital Advanced Readers Copy! I thoroughly enjoyed it!

This was a heartbreaking memoir of a woman and her family. The Manicurist's daughter demonstrate the love and trauma that runs in immigrant families, and how this impacts long-term relationships. Susan's story telling and relating back to the nail salon she grew up in was a wonderful metaphor for her life. Her dark sense of humor made some of the more difficult parts more digestible and demonstrated the humanity in love and loss.

Part I: Ma

A book in six parts, Susan takes the word ma, made different by adding diacritics. This first section, ma, means ghost. It takes place in her youth, growing up in and around her mother's nail salons.

The last time Susan spoke to her mom, she told her she hated her. The next time she saw her, she was in a coma. Days later, she died from a botched plastic surgery. The surgeon was known for preying on Vietnamese women. He did not have malpractice insurance. He continued to practice.

Part II: Mả

The Korean yoga cult scares me. I understand that feeling of disconnect and divide from your family can sometimes feel so strong that you feel pressure to pour out your feelings to literal strangers.

As someone that just took my first trip to Vietnam, hearing about the juxtapositions between Susan's trips as a child and as a working adult make me smile. There is nothing quite like landing in Asia, and Southeast Asia in particular has a set of sounds and smells that, while not inherently familiar to me, were.

Part III: Mà

The blending of Vietnamese and Korean culture at Susan and Marvin's wedding greatly amused me. I enjoy both countries' traditional dress, and am glad they wore both. The juxtaposition between Susan's mostly working class upbringing and Marvin's upper middle class one struck me as something significant. Even the act of eating can bring shame.

Part IV: Má

This section was long. For a section named after Susan's mother, I expected nothing less.

The Paris by Night chapter had me howling. I 100% remember everyone being enamored with Dalena, a white blonde woman that sang in Vietnamese. I don't understand the excitement.

What is disheartening to me is when Susan mentions the plastic surgery ads post-show. They are so ingrained in me as "normal" that I forgot about them. And while I would never police a woman's right to choose what to do with her own body, as long as it's her own choice, the fact that these women paid through the roof to fix their bodies for men makes me sad.

Part V: Mạ

Susan being dramatic on the mountain = ME

I can't believe Marvin wrote a program for Alexa to give Susan compliments instead of just complimenting her himself. Well, I can, but you know what I mean. Men smh.

I'm still iffy on kids for myself, but I think it would be so special to have them call me Mẹ. I used to call my own mom that, until one day it segued into mom. I'm not sure when or why that is. Well, I probably know the why.

I cried a little when Susan couldn't even croak out the word má, when she and Marvin were deciding what they wanted their son to call them. I'm glad she chose that, and he chose appa. Made me smile.

Part VI: Mã

This section title confused me a bit. I know the word horse as ngựa. Mental note to ask my parents if this is a dialect thing.

We spend most of this book focused on Susan's mother, and this is understandable, but this section focuses on her father. His zodiac animal is the horse, which makes this make so much more sense. There is some growth and healing that happens for the both of them. Some things never change, and some never will, but I was happy with the resolution.

📚 Buddy read with Christina

📱 Thank you to NetGalley and Celadon Books

his memoir is by Susan, the youngest in her family and the only one born in the US after her family escaped from Vietnam. When she was just eleven, her mother died after a botched plastic surgery. This book explores both Susan’s childhood, her relationships with her family, and her attempts as an adult to investigate and come to terms with her mom’s death, culminating in a one woman show and then this book.

This one got a lot of raves, but for me it just never really drew me in and hence I read it extra slowly because I was rarely compelled to pick it up. I know by definition memoirs are self-focused, but this one just seemed especially solipsistic, even though it’s also ostensibly about the author’s mother. I bet the show she performed was great though - she spends too much of the book talking about developing it, but then when she includes part of the script of the end of the show, I found that to be the most emotionally affecting part of the book.

Throughout the memoir Lieu incorporates interesting and nuanced themes related to body image, emotional and physical abuse, and learning how to love yourself and where you come from. It’s absolutely wild and sickening that a white male plastic surgeon was profiting off vulnerable Vietnamese women’s body image insecurities, and Lieu is courageous for writing about her and her mother’s story.

Really not interested in reading or listening to this ( I tried both formats). I found the very beginning pretty annoying. After reading other reviews, others shared concerns about the whole book being annoying and not really focusing on what the synopsis said.

The Manicurist's Daughter is a powerful and inspiring memoir that will resonate with readers who are seeking to connect with their own stories and explore the complexities of the human experience. It is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the enduring power of love.

I was not at all prepared for this memoir to be as deep or as sad as it was. The story was interesting and I was happy that Susan was able to find the closure that she was looking for with both of her parents. I just could have used a bit of a warning of how sad the situation was/is.

When Susan was 11 years old, her mother, a Vietnamese refugee who opened two successful nail salons through sheer will and determination, died during a tummy tuck procedure. In this memoir, The Manicurist's Daughter by Susan Lieu, the author embarks on a journey to find out what made her mother go to such ominous lengths for perfection. She discovers not only about her mom's and family's past but comes to terms with her own feelings of inadequacy and desire to find her purpose in the world.

I didn't know what to expect when I received this book for review. I thought that I would try it even though I wasn't sure if it appealed to me. From the first chapter, though, I was engaged with the story that the author was telling.

Despite the good things about her childhood, the untimely death of her successful, formidable, and beautiful mother colored everything the author did. It wasn't discussed, and it always troubled her. When she becomes a mother herself, it seems clearer than ever that she needed to find out why her mother thought she wasn't good enough and needed a dangerous surgery to feel good about herself.

Throughout the book, you learn about her upbringing, her relationships with her three siblings as the youngest child, the Vietnamese culture that is interwoven with American culture, and how Susan ends up coping with all the different and challenging family situations. Some of these situations and her feelings about them propel her to do things like join a cult and change course after earning degrees from Ivy League colleges toward the art of performance much to her father's disappointment.

I loved that any time she described a traditional dish or a family member or friend used a Vietnamese term, the author immediately gave you the translation or description. Sometimes, it would be in italics. I found that extremely helpful and connected me more with the book. I feel like more books that describe an unfamiliar culture or define terms right there is so much more helpful than a glossary that you may forget to check or a footnote that messes with your reading momentum.

The story starts out with present day when the author is writing the book and then faces some health challenges. I understood why it started out that way, especially with the author's trepidation about doctors and going to the hospital. However, I never felt that that portion of the book was resolved or explained to come full circle at the end of the book. That may have been my only issue with the book.

Otherwise, I really felt that you get to know the author so clearly and can empathize with her. She's a woman like anyone else who has family issues, issues stemming from wanting to be perfect, and demands from her parents to forge a particular path that may not be for her. I think many women face that. It was triumphant to see her go through a lot of trials and find her way even if it wasn't where she started. I'm glad that I took the chance to read this book.