Finding friends as adults is hard and it is even harder to keep friendships thriving for various reasons. Then through in the act of finding friends when you don't have your young children to bridge the gap and it feels darn near impossible.

Here For It felts like a conversation with a friend and offers some good advice. I found the book to be relatable. It also is nice that the authors offer a Facebook group for their readers.

I received an ARC of this book from NetGalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

This book was definitely not the book for me. I don't think I'm someone who enjoys these types of book, try as I might. I'm sorry for wasting everyone's time by getting this and feeling like I'm not giving it a fair review because it's just not my cup of tea.

This one started a little slow for me, but I enjoyed it. It has some great reminders on how to be a good friend and some ideas about when you might just need to let go.

If you’re wishing to grow deeper friendships, this is a great book to read. It comes from a Christian point of view, but I feel like the advice provided is universal and useful for anyone wanting to grow a deeper friendship. I learned many new things that I can do to make my friendships more whole. I’m so annoyed that I waited so long to read this. I could have been implementing the advice for a whole year now. But this year I will grow in my friendships and I will look back at this book to refresh my mind and implement the practices mentioned.

I truly enjoyed this book! The relationship between the who authors is amazing and want to be a better friend because of their lessons within the book. One of the things I love the most was the definition of big t trauma and Little T trauma! Life changing for me! There were lots of other tidbits of life hacks that help me daily! Thank you!

Thanks to NetGalley and the authors for the opportunity to read and review this book, all thoughts and opinions are my own!

Here For It (The Good, the Bad, and the Queso) by Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston is a heartwarming and practical guide to cultivating and deepening the friendships we all crave, especially in adulthood. Building on the success of their previous book, I'll Be There (But I'll Be Wearing Sweatpants), Weatherly and Johnston offer a roadmap for navigating the challenges of real, authentic relationships in a world that often leaves us feeling isolated.

This book is part self-help, part love letter to friendship. The authors, founders of the popular online community Sister, I Am with You, blend humor, vulnerability, and wisdom to explore the complexities of friendship. They tackle everything from recognizing when a relationship has run its course to maintaining long-distance bonds and learning to communicate effectively across differing love languages. What sets this book apart is the combination of practical advice and relatable anecdotes, making it feel like you're sitting down with a friend who’s been through the highs and lows of friendship and is now sharing the tools to help you thrive.

One of the standout features of Here For It is how the authors break down various aspects of friendship, such as understanding the difference between casual acquaintances and deep, life-changing connections. They don’t just offer feel-good advice but provide actionable tips for setting boundaries, confronting conflict, and fostering meaningful relationships that can withstand the test of time. They even go beyond traditional friendships to include advice on connecting with neighbors and establishing traditions that can strengthen your social circle.

Whether you're struggling to make new friends as an adult, dealing with the complexities of long-term relationships, or simply looking for ways to show up more authentically in your friendships, Here For It delivers the encouragement and guidance you need. Amy and Jess emphasize the importance of grace—both for ourselves and for others—and how showing up in our friendships with honesty and vulnerability can transform our lives.

With humor and insight, Here For It makes the often-overlooked subject of friendship feel accessible and essential. Weatherly and Johnston’s down-to-earth writing style and positive, inclusive tone will make you feel supported and understood, no matter what stage of life you’re in. If you’ve ever felt lost in the challenges of adult friendship or wondered if you're truly building the connections you want, this book offers both clarity and a sense of community.

In short, Here For It is a refreshing, uplifting guide to cultivating friendships that are real, lasting, and full of grace. It's the perfect read for anyone looking to deepen their relationships, build new connections, or simply find more joy in the friendships they already have. Whether you're a fan of queso, a lover of deep conversation, or someone simply trying to figure out how to maintain friendships in a busy world, this book will leave you feeling inspired and ready to show up for the people who matter most.

Here For It offers a relatable, practical guide to navigating the challenges of adult friendships. Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston share insights on building and sustaining meaningful connections in a lighthearted, approachable style. While the book covers useful advice on boundary-setting, conflict resolution, and friendship maintenance, it doesn't stray far from familiar territory. If you're looking for encouragement and straightforward strategies, this book has a lot to offer, though it may feel somewhat basic for readers seeking deeper, more nuanced discussions. Overall, it’s a helpful read for anyone looking to strengthen their friendships.

This made me pick up the phone and call my best friend simply to hear her voice. Being in a long distance friendship is hard and these ladies do such a good job of explaining that.

The book is centered around the topic of friendships and recipes to make lasting friendships. Some of these enclosed a recipe for grit, speaking up, listening well, humility, grace, self-awareness, and much more. One of the chapters discussed being offended. Amy shared how she dealt with rejection and not being invited to an event she thought they would have included her. She felt left out and she felt hurt. Her hurt turned into bitterness. She began to try and figure out why and she took it as a direct insult. She took the wound to heart and let it fester into bitterness. She finally realized that this was getting her nowhere and her offence was a choice she was making. She explained how we can’t allow our feelings to run the show. She worked with a therapist to discover hidden roots and her experiences with bullying. She learned the importance of letting things go and not being offended. Each chapter she breaks down the good and the bad and the takeaway for each lesson in this book. The book also contained a special recipe on how to make the best queso. One of their suggestions was to buy cheese from the deli because it makes this recipe with better.



I would recommend this book to women who are seeking a book too build their friendships and relationships with others. There are tons of recipes on how to connect and go deeper with others. The book will help readers to distinguish the different types of friendships, learn when a friendship has run its course, and help you to maintain and make lasting friendships.



“I received this book free from Thomas Nelson for my honest review.”

I feel personally attacked! In a good way though! I felt this book hard. Everything seemed to be explaining my life. I have realized I have falled into a lonely bubble and pushed friendships away and I needed to read this. This book came into my hands at the exact right time. It explained who I am exactly I swear and it gave me some great advice of things to start doing to fix those friendships and get myself out of my bubble. I really think anyone who likes self help books and wants to be the best friend they can be should read these. yes some stuff didnt apply to me but alot did and it made me think about things a little deeper.

Enjoyed this read, very digestible and well written, almost like you’re talking with good friends. Had great advice for maintaining friendships which can be hard to do as an adult

This book is a great follow up to their first one, I'll Be There, but I will Be Wearing Sweatpants. Both of the authors are so real, transparent, and relatable. Meeting and making friends is very different and can be difficult as an adult so the authors do a great job offering practical advice while keeping the reader in stitches. There is a great balance in the book of humorous stories as well as great questions to help you self-reflect and evaluate friendships in your own life. I would highly recommend this book and definitely check out the first one if you haven't already.

Thank you to the publisher and Netgalley for a copy of this book. All opinions expressed are entirely my own.

Some interesting thought and concepts for how to build, keep friendships healthy and deepening these relationships. I did find the content very Christian value focused at times, but I'm not religious.

I loved this book. Loved. What a gem! I've enjoyed Amy & Jess on their 'Sister, I am with you' Facebook page for a few years and was very excited to read this book. This is a fantastic read on friendship. As one who tends to be a people pleaser, social introvert, confrontational avoidant, and has a hard time saying no, this book was written for me. It's honest, real, humorous, and chalked full of wonderful truths and ideas causing me to examine my friendships and my role as a friend. Everyone who values friendship should read this book!

A huge thank you to NetGalley, Thomas Nelson, Amy Weatherly, and Jess Johnson for the eARC in exchange for my review.

Thanks to the publisher and Netgalley for this eARC.

“Here For It (the Good, the Bad, and the Queso)” by Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston is a refreshing take on the complexities of adult friendships. The authors, known for their bestselling work and the “Sister, I Am with You” online community, delve into the intricacies of nurturing and deepening relationships that go beyond the superficial.

The book is structured as a practical guide, offering readers a toolkit for fostering friendships that are not only meaningful but also resilient in the face of life’s inevitable challenges. Weatherly and Johnston address the awkwardness and difficulties of making friends as an adult with humor and honesty, acknowledging the weirdness and the overwhelming nature of it all.

What sets this book apart is its focus on the “how” rather than just the “why” of friendships. It’s not just about finding people who “get” you, but also about maintaining those connections and taking them to a deeper level. The authors provide actionable advice on distinguishing between different types of friendships, understanding the importance of self-awareness, healthy confrontation, and love languages in friendship, and even maintaining long-distance relationships.

The book’s title, “Here For It”, encapsulates the authors’ message: being present and committed to the friendships we value. The addition of “the Good, the Bad, and the Queso” adds a playful touch, suggesting that true friends are there for each other through life’s ups and downs—and perhaps over a shared love of queso.

In a culture that often emphasizes individual success and self-reliance, Weatherly and Johnston offer a counter-narrative that champions the power of community and collective joy. Their writing is accessible, their advice is grounded, and their anecdotes are relatable. This is a book for anyone who has ever felt alone in a crowded room and wondered how to bridge the gap between acquaintance and confidant, which is exactly why I read it..

Overall, “Here For It” is a heartfelt reminder of the importance of friendships and a call to action to invest in them. It’s a must-read for those looking to deepen existing relationships or forge new ones in the complex dance of adult socialization. With its blend of wisdom, wit, and warmth, this book is a valuable addition to the conversation about the art of friendship in the modern age.

Just the type of book I needed to help me dig deeper in my friendships. I enjoyed the practical advice on enhancing friendships and navigating life's challenges together. Loved the quotes and the way the author provided advice with humor. Amy and Jess did a great job of making the concept of navigating friendships attainable and applicable.

Do I think there was anything new in this book? No, but I think it was full of thoughtful reminders to care about the people we love and to chase our friends with intentionality.

Could this be new or helpful for some people? Yes! I found it to be full of gentle reminders of things I mostly already do! I think it was solid advice tho!

From a Christian presentation, but could be read by non Christians in my opinion.

Thanks to Net Galley, the authors, and publishers for the copy to read and review.

I wanted to love this one and honestly found it to be too much for me. Lots of unrelatable content. Didn't feel it was a fit for me.

I thought this was really well written and I look forward to reading more from this author in the future. I think it will find readers at our library, so we will definitely be purchasing for the collection.

I enjoyed this book. I would genuinely buy this for myself or a friend! I didn’t know it was also a Christian book, which made me enjoy it more and made me so happy! I read this as an e-book and I screenshotted so many good quotes, so many good nuggets of truth! I laughed, I cried, I reflected - all things a book like this should do for their reader! I loved how real and vulnerable the authors were. They were so authentic.
For me, I was really looking for more in this book. I’m not claiming to be a friendship expert (and neither are the authors), but I know we have seasons of friends, and not all of them are made to last. I know not every person you want to be friends with wants to be friends back, and that’s okay. We fade out and truly wish those people nothing but the best, but we put our time and energy in other relationships and get to see those blossom. I knew all of this before this book, and didn’t feel like this book was super revolutionary for me. It was nice to hear their experiences, their struggles, their back stories. It’s nice to know this happens to everyone, and isn’t an isolated occurrence. I just don’t feel like I needed this book to understand that.
Despite all that, I would still recommend it! If you’re in a friendship slump or feeling alone, this is an amazing read. Even if you feel secure in your friendships, there are so many great pieces of advice on how we can love our friends better - just maybe this isn’t a “guide” for you.
Still, overall a good book! I would love to go to a Mexican restaurant with Amy and Jess and laugh til we cry over chips and queso, so I would say the book was solid.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher, Nelson Books, for this fruitful, witty, and sincere ARC!