The grownups guide to friendship.

As an adult I have move around a great deal and often find myself starting over in social circles and maintaining distant friendships. This book was very insightful about help me evaluate what exactly I’m looking for in a friendship, and what relationships were worth building, and maintaining.

I feel like this has helped me grow stronger, more meaningful relationships, and I have actually bought this book as a gift for my closest friend as it spoke to my heart.

Jess and Amy did not shy away from the hard stuff and the book challenged me to think about what I really want out of my relationships.

I highly recommend this for people who are looking to strengthen and deepen their friendships.

Thank you so so much for this copy. This was the book I didn’t know I needed. As a mother in her early 30s dealing with changes in life and new phases I really appreciated the books discussion of adult relationships. It really is making me take a look inside and reevaluate myself as an individual and friend. Also, it will definitely help guide me be there for friends having a difficult time. I can’t wait to go back and read their first book now. I’m also recommending this book to my other mom friends as well.

Here For It (the Good, the Bad, and the Queso): The How-To Guide for Deepening Your Friendships and Doing Life Together
By Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston
Thank you NetGalley for the ARC.
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I was here for all the cheesy Queso Dip references! ~See what I did there?

I’m not the only person with no friends?!?!~ I thought it was just me.

I love a good self help book! This one was particularly interesting because, as an adult, I have had such a difficult time making and maintaining friends. I have recently had yet another friend “breakup” and I was left confused and thinking I was alone in my lack of friendship. I understand we are all busy with our families and careers. I long for a deep connection with another person but for whatever reason, am unable to maintain it. For so long, I’ve felt like there was only one type of friendship and if people weren’t living up to it I would let the relationship go.
The book was so helpful for me! It explained different types of friendships and different ways to look at friends. The authors gave great examples of ways to protect yourself from possible negative friends and also examples of how to be a good friend. The chapter that resonated with me the most was the theme ‘Everyone is doing their best’. It is important to believe that everyone is doing the best they can. It can make a much happier life.
In my opinion the book would be good for all age levels, teen through adult. I would have no hesitation recommending this book to a patron.

I follow Jess and Amy on Facebook so I already kind of knew what to expect from the book. I guess I really didn’t expect the style in which it was written. It was kind of confusing and disjointed because they both kept telling stories and naming who was talking. There seemed to be some good things mixed in with a lot of fluff. If you are looking for a self help book on friendship with a dash of Jesus, this is a good one. I feel kind of meh about it, but that doesn’t mean others will! I’ll still follow them on fb and enjoy their content!

Here For It (the Good, the Bad, and the Queso)
The How-To Guide for Deepening Your Friendships and Doing Life Together
by Amy Weatherly; Jess Johnston
Pub Date 30 Jan 2024
Nelson Books,Thomas Nelson
Christian| Nonfiction \(Adult\)| Self-Help


Nelson Books, Thomas Nelson, and Netgalley sent me a copy of Here For It for review:


It's hard to make friends as an adult! It can seem overwhelming, it's tricky, and it's weird. Making those friendships last and taking them to the next level can be challenging as well. With I'll Be There (But I'll Be Wearing Sweatpants), Amy and Jess gave readers a road map for finding real, authentic relationships; now they provide a toolkit for building them up. In Here For It (The Good, the Bad, and the Queso), the reader will explore the whys and hows of living together in a culture that constantly tries to separate us. Readers will learn how to:
distinguish between different types of friendships and recognize when a seasonal relationship has run its course;In this book readers will learn how to recognize when a seasonal relationship has run its course and distinguish between different types of friendships; understand the importance of self-awareness, healthy confrontation, and differing love languages in friendship; and Understanding self-awareness, healthy confrontation, and differing love languages in friendship is essential; maintain long-distance friendships, foster real relationships with your neighbors, and establish traditions that strengthen your connections. Establish traditions that strengthen your relationships with your neighbors, foster long-distance friendships, and foster real relationships with your neighbors.


In this new book, Amy and Jess give readers the tools they need to lay a strong foundation and build relationships that stand the test of time.


I give Here for It five out of five stars!


Happy Reading!

I really enjoyed this book. It rings true for me with my lifelong friendships. The author has a knack for writing about emotional topics with humor and skill.

4.5 stars for me! I really liked this book- I relate to the content, the chapters are short and feature multiple perspectives. I appreciated the takeaways and enjoyed the humor! Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for an eARC in exchange for my honest review

A recipe for a good book.

Their cute unique way of telling this story was something I enjoyed. Easy read & relatable!

I was a fan of the reminders to

•use your voice, that’s why you have one
•fight for the relationships that make you feel good, not that make you feel bad
•listen more
& so much more!

•here for it(the good, the bad, and the queso)•

Here For It is well written and easy to read. It’s hard to develop friendships as an adult and sometimes that makes it harder for adults to let go of friends. This book speaks to building and maintaining healthy friendships. I love that two girlfriends are talking about their lives and their relationships. Amy and Jess let the readers in on their story’s and their suggestions. Reading this book felt like discussing life with good girlfriends. They share the good, the bad, and what we can learn. I recently had a friend who lost her mom and loss of a family is always hard. It’s hard to know how to react and reading a section about a death in the family reminded me that all I really need to do is be there. “Be there for the long haul…. Always let them know their grief is legitimate, and never make them feel like they should be over it.” This book was worth the read, there are many takeaways.

Thank you to Amy and Jess, the publisher, and NetGalley for allowing me to read and review this book.

Loved this!! Don’t sleep on the recipe, either! The dialogue was impeccable!! Friendship is so important, it keeps you grounded. A life without a bestie is unimaginable.

This is such a great book! I’m in a place where I’m really evaluating the quality of my friendships. I want real and authentic. People who lift me up and that I can do the same for. I’ve got several amazing friends in my life, for which I am grateful, and I no longer feel the need to “chase” friendships I “wished” I had. This book shows you how to establish a deeper connection. Love it!

I feel like a lot of us are in the same position after the pandemic. It’s like we got a reset. With that reset, we had time to reevaluate a lot of things. And with that reset, came a lot of grief. In all forms, but it seems that everyone suffered many loses over the last few years. In that grief, I feel like we value time more and we understand that it’s a commodity. Like the book states, “I want to be friends with people that want to be friends with me”.

I found out which tables were not my tables, and I’m grateful for that now, but starting over is weird. And hard. I’ll just keep praying the right people come into my life. And the friendships I DO still have, will grow. And I thank God for this new season, even though it’s unfamiliar. And lonely, growing in faith with the Lord.

I’m LOVING this book!!! It’s like a guidebook to new adult friendships. It’s so good! I can see the “old” me and how I would trauma respond to situations in old friendships. Unhealthy conflict resolution. (Thankful for therapy!)

The new me is nodding “Yes, girls!!” to all of this!! I feel like it’s a Godwink that this book came at this exact moment in time. God’s timing!

This book is a must read for any woman, young or old. My younger self would have appreciated the “friend” advice given in this book! I would have stopped wasting so much time trying to fit in where I didn’t belong. My present self is reminding me to give myself grace. I did the best I could with what I was given. I now know my worth in Christ and my friends are not my identity. We are all unique and we deserve to stay that way! Friends enhance our world!

Looking forward to making new, more meaningful, authentic, real, Christian friendships where my friends don’t care that I’m only good at bringing the chips when getting together for queso! ❤️

My “Word” for 2024 is REST. In resting is healing and restoration. And growth. (I’m sure there’s a great verse to go here, but I’m new to the Bible, so I don’t have one yet.) Jeremiah 29:11 keeps popping up, so I’ll go with that one. “For I know the plans I have for you”, declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.

This book felt like a fun conversation with friends over a margarita. It was lighthearted while also balancing tough conversations about friendship and how to find (and keep) your people. I enjoyed the mix of writing styles between both authors and the humor and “realness” mixed in to each chapter.

Thanks to the publisher and netgalley for an ARC of this book.

This book was an amazing self help book. I loved the humor between the two and I loved that it really made me help to be a good friend. I think everyone should read this.

I requested the book Here for it the good the bad and the queso because I red the authors first book and because I follow them on Facebook. I think they are amazing women who make other women feel loved and understood. This book demonstrates that same thing. Writen in the pages of this book is a journey of understanding yourself better and how your relationships with your friends shape who you are. This book will help you navigate the feelings you have surrounding some of the most important connections you have in your life. FRIENDS! Relationships can be hard. The author shares personal and authentic stories. Some are funny and some are heartbreaking. You feel the raw honesty as the author shares ways to deepen bonds of relationships and also how to let go of past hurts and self doubts that may be hindering you from growing in surface level friendships. This book is beautifully written and so inspiring. This book will call you to be vulnerable at times. Show yourself grace as you go through this book. Take your time as you read it. Become aware of things that you feel need changing in areas of your life. Be open and honest with yourself allowing yourself to process feelings you didn't know you had. This book should be read and experienced. Thank you netgalley for sharing this book with me in exchange for my honest review.

OMgouda this book was great! Jess and Amy (& their queso recipe) really go beyond just the surface level and dive deep into the different layers and eras of friendship. It’s so relatable and easy to read, I absolutely devoured it. To anyone who’s experienced a friend breakup before (heartbreaking!!), this should be recommended reading.

Such a refreshing book to know that I am not alone in friendship struggles. I love how Amy and Jess use humor but also real talk to get you through these troubles. I loved the part about how sometimes friendships are just for a season and there is nothing wrong with that.

Women friendships can be complicated any time in life. The authors of Here For It (the Good, the Bad, and the Queso) have written their second book on friendship and that we all share the same good and bad they bring.
The authors are honest about their own friendships and how they have been blessings but can also be hurtful. They share the simple steps of how to go deeper in a friendship to when you may need to apologize. Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston do a good job of making the reader feel like she is their friend and experiences she may have had in friendship are normal.
All readers will enjoy the writing style of this book and the personal stories they share. All readers will come away from this book with advice on making a friendship better, regardless if they have many or want to make one.
I received a complimentary copy of this book thanks to Thomas Nelson and NetGalley.

I love these ladies. I have been following them on social media and read their first book. There aren’t enough discussions around the reality, complexity, and necessity of female friendship. These 2 do a great job breaking it down while boosting the readers confidence up.

HERE FOR IT (THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE QUESO) by Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston is the warm hug and chair at the kitchen table with lively, smart, really fun friends I have never met in real life, but who have shared an incredible queso recipe with and who speak right to my heart about friendships, both beginnings, endings, and the marvelous middles. I loved every moment with them, felt like I was listening to my best friends on a night when we're alone with the queso, the realities of our lives, and the chips are flying -- such great ideas and so engaging. A rousing wonderful read I cannot wait top share with my real friends, the ones close and the ones miles away. A standing ovation for an essential, life-affirming and really fun read. I received a copy of this book and these opinions are my own, unbiased thoughts.

Such a great book and a fun read! It was so comforting to realize, it’s not just me; other people have these same thoughts and emotions! Adult friendships are hard and if you have ever experienced a friend breakup or struggles, you must read this. Amy & Jess share their good and bad, sometimes ugly or funny personal experiences and offer practical steps to improve your friendships.