Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for giving me the opportunity to be able to read and review this book!

4/5

From the moment I saw the title of this book, Too Tired to Fight, I knew that it was for me. Raise your hand if you can 100% relate to that title! In the 5+ years since I was pregnant with my first kiddo, my husband and I have navigated almost all 13 of the conflict scenarios presented in the book. The real value in the book, I think, are the "Questions for Reflection" within each conflict. It's been really nice to talk through the reflection questions myself AND with my partner.

Thank you to NetGalley, Erin Mitchell and Stephen Mitchell, and PENGUIN GROUP Putnam | G.P. Putnam's Sons for the advanced copy.

This book really hit home with the struggles In my own family. We are chronically, exhausted parents of a child with special needs, and the author nailed our biggest conflicts. It’s helpful and hopeful and practical.

A fantastic book on parenting conflicts. The authors are married and have multiple children, and each chapter is about a specific conflict and a "couple" (who they state is usually a compliation of couples they've worked with). The chapters lay groundwork for the conflict and show why it is happening with some examples conversations that break down. They the authors explain Why You Need This Conflict, How This Conflict Goes Wrong, and a sample session with dialogue where the couple moves (with assistance) from Conflict to Connection. Sample scripts for the reader to use with their partner and Questions for Reflection end each chapter.
There was so much helpful info in this book. It gives me hope that the techniques and sample conversations shown can be used to resolve parenting conflicts.

I think that any parent can immediately relate to the title of this book. Apparently, the title isn’t the only thing that we can all relate to. The two authors are both couples counselors, and they essentially state that after helping thousands of couples, they have found that most issues can be broken into thirteen common conflict themes. I was somewhere between skeptical and cautiously optimistic before diving in; after all, each family has unique challenges, dynamics, and personalities. Well, it turns out that they know what they’re talking about. Not only did I find myself relating in some way to each scenario, but I also couldn’t think of a single issue in my own experience that wasn’t somehow explored through one of the themes. What struck me the most was the amount of realizations that I made about myself after learning why certain conflicts and emotions arise and by stripping away defensiveness and hearing the other perspective. The information in this book is presented in a very concise and easily digestible way, with clear action plans and strategies. I’m excited to employ these tactics and have these conversations with my partner so that we can use these tough issues as a way to build a stronger connection and model a great relationship for my children.

Thank you to the authors, Penguin Group Putnam, and NetGalley for an advanced reader copy in exchange for an honest review.

Thank you to NetGalley and the Authors for this eARC in exchange for an honest review.

This book is for anyone with children,expecting children and a spouse or co-parent. My only wish is that this book would've been around sooner. It hits many of the major conflicts associated with parenting and walks you through ways to navigate these difficult conversations. Definitely, definitely recommend this!

I have already recommended this book to several people. Where was this guide when we became parents 25 years ago? Even now, I see so many applications, not just in our marriage, but in any conflict where emotions run high. This one is going on my personal bookshelf for future reference.

Erin and Stephen Mitchell, couple's therapists, share the top conflicts that you need to have with your partner as you try to navigate and survive the parenting years intact. Take a look at these chapters.
The “My Life Has Changed and Yous Hasn’t” Conflict
The “I’m All Touched Out” Conflict
The “Stop Micromanaging my Parenting” Conflict
The “ I am Carrying the Mental Load” Conflict
The “I’m More Tired Than You” Conflict
The “Your Parenting is Wrong” Conflict
Amongst others. Sound familiar? The Mitchell’s focus on really sitting down and addressing these conflicts instead of avoiding or waiting until we explode. They dive into how our own history, and attachment styles might bring up defensiveness and reactivity when speaking to our partner about these topics, and ways to navigate those feelings. Do the couples in these books seem really mindful and emotionally aware? Yes, they do. Does each chapter seem to wrap up nicely with the couples understanding each other deeply? Pretty much. But the information and guidance in each chapter is really helpful.
Thank you the NetGalley and Penguin Group for the ARC!

I chose this book because I’ve often been able to relate to this title. Too tired to fight & ready to give up in my relationship.

Reading this book, gave me so much insight on how one can find connection in conflict and how to “fight” fair. One of the major things this book teaches you is how to be humble and not defensive. How to validate your partner’s feeling or experience without having to diminish your own.

My favorite part of this book, was the real conversations between the couples and how they were walked through the 3 steps of each side of the equation to have a positive and genuine outcome that worked for their specific relationships and attachment styles.

I will say, that even though this book is a shorter read than what I’m used to, it took me a lot longer to get through the book and the content than I would have had hoped.

I volunteered to read a copy of this ARC through NetGalley.