I’ll say, I went into this book with an open mind but there were some parts that completely turned me off and made me want to discontinue the read. Why did the writer feel as if it were ok to have the FMC engage in reading literature around slavery while having sex with a black man and then the use of the n-word? I understand creative freedom but it can be done while keeping ALL readers in mind. Maybe this book would have resonated with me more if I weren’t black.

This book was really hit and miss for me. Parts of it were super interesting and incredibly sexy, with wild stories of parties and BDSM clubs and the kink scene. Other parts were repetitive and boring, like the scenes with the photographer guy with the canes kinda repeating himself. And still others were very bad examples of how to do kink. DO NOT involve strangers in your kink. Don’t be naked and tied up during people’s morning commutes in NYC. That’s the opposite of consent. That’s not cool at all.

Glad I read it, even the parts that upset or bored me. Good work, and thanks netgalley for the copy

New interest in BDSM, this book blew my mind. Reading about Sonnet's journey into this lifestyle and the liberation she found along the way. I loved that the book is broken up until three sections mind, body, and soul. It's like your In Sonnet's private diary. There are parts that inspired and intrigued me, the most journey of self discovery, getting to see the confidence growth in her. This book is a bit inspiring, uncomfortable at times, causes curiosity and self-reflection. This definitely was a good read!

Thank you to NetGalley for the eARC copy of the book.

This was such an empowering memoir. I felt that the writing was really well done and it felt like it was a casual conversation with the author. I enjoyed this read from Sonnet's perspective on this topic.

Sexual power. A woman that liberated, yet loves humiliation. The way this book conjures honesty and the question of...what the hell am I doing with my sex life? If you like books with raw, unfiltered, explicit sexual liberation, then this is your book! Not for the faint of heart or a oppressed/repressed sexual identity. Some of the scenes I had trouble getting through.

Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC!

Started out okay. Got a little repetitive. And I was not a huge fan on some of the consent issues, such as him making her get the sushi naked and with presumably marks on her body -even if she consented to this the food delivery man did not- and she seems to glaze over safe words way too quickly, wich should be a pretty big part of any BDSM play.

Thank you to Netgalley for the ARC.


Interesting writing style and topic. Told in three parts, Mind, Body, and Soul. Would definitely read another from the Pseudonymous Sonnet.

The author’s raw honesty in this memoir was truly refreshing. It was a thought-provoking read that kept me on the edge of my seat throughout the tense pages. While some parts felt a bit disjointed, the overall story was captivating and fast-paced.

To quote Anastasia Steele, “Oh my,” this book is naughty. And yet, the 50 Shades of Grey universe in which Anastasia inhabits has nothing on Sonnet’s Submit, an unflinching, eye-opening anonymously-written memoir about a woman in love with both sex and being a submissive.

The stories here are true. The sex is real and raw. It is candid and graphic, and gives you everything you never knew you wanted to know about the BDSM community and those who treat sex as “play.” This book pushes erotica to its limits, and will most certainly make you blush. It is a shamelessly written account of one woman’s obsession with sex and everything it has to offer.

If you have ever been sex-curious or wondered what really goes on behind BDSM doors, you might find this memoir quite intriguing, but be warned - Sonnet puts it all out there in vulgar detail. This book is selling sex stripped of any and all romantic inclinations. Sonnet has chosen to live a life where she makes her every fantasy a reality, and as can be imagined, the results are a life lived without inhibition. You have been warned.

Remember …

We listen and we don’t judge.

Very interesting, fascinating fast paced read, I am not one to comment on other people's sex lives think everyone should live the way they choose, so just interesting that's all. I will say it's very well written

DNF at 40% I was expecting this book to be more about the thoughts and experiences behind what led the author to discovering they liked a submissive role. Instead it just became a repetitive catalog of similar sexual experiences over and over. Also bothered by the glorification of public sexual acts that are bringing others into the kink without consent. Especially one instance where it was on a train when children could have been present.

While not exactly my cup of tea,this was an interesting read. A memoir of a someone in the BDSM world. While it did hold my attention for most of it, it is nothing something I would recommend to my friends.

this book really intrigued me but i couldn’t get into it, maybe the start was just too slow? i’m not sure but i love the idea

Well now I know what I’m into and not into. This was spicy and informative. I was interested in this book because I realize I know nothing about BDSM and how one finds themselves into certain kinks. This is not to shame anyone for what their kinks are. I love this for anyone who participates in this sort of thing. Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to read an advanced copy. I would recommend this to anyone who is at least curious. I can say this has satisfied my own curiosity.

I thought this was a fascinating read and an interesting insight into the life of a sub. My only issue is that I did not like how it was written, there was something about the style of writing that felt disingenuous.

This is one of the hottest works of erotica I've read in a long time. It covers many aspects of kink and BDSM culture. A delight for fans of well-written erotica.

Am I normally a nonfiction girlie? No. Did this grab my attention? Absolutely.

A candid memoir that offers a thoughtful, unflinching exploration of submission, self-acceptance, and the complexities of desire, handled with remarkable sensitivity despite its intense subject matter. While I had a pretty good idea of what may lie in the pages, if you are not part of the community, please look through some reviews for any material that may shock or upset you. Sonnet skillfully provides insightful perspectives on ethical non-monogamy and sex-positive relationships and the innerworkings of BDSM through her personal experiences, but some sections contain potentially triggering content. Through intimate personal stories and honest reflections, 'Submit' presents a brave narrative that goes beyond simple titillation to examine deeper themes of the mind, body, and soul of a submissive in the BDSM community. What could have been merely sensational becomes a nuanced exploration of identity and desire.

This was a fascinating read/memoir and definitely a non-fiction highlight for me this year. As someone who has her own share of admitted kinks, it was really interesting to read someone else's POV and thoughts on the matter, alongside other tangents, scientific facts, statistics, and quotes from others who share in these same experiences, however unique. This book is broken up into three (3) parts - Mind, Body, and Soul - and I found Sonnet to be a really strong writer, with a distinct style to be found within each section. Furthermore, I like how there were very clear moments where Sonnet would deliberately choose to actually "show" versus just "tell" us things, and vice versa, which I really appreciated (as, to me, it proved to me that they had a firm grasp on what they wanted to say, explain, or show to us, as readers, and how to best execute it). Definitely recommend this one for those looking for a very enlightening and intriguing non-fiction read!

I found "Submit" by Sonnet to be an intriguing and provocative memoir. The book is divided into three sections—Mind, Body, and Soul—offering a raw and unfiltered look into the author's life as a submissive.
Sonnet's writing is vivid and electric, drawing readers into her world with unapologetic honesty. The "Mind" section particularly stood out, showcasing the author's talent for seamlessly transitioning between descriptive and reflective passages.
While I don't often read memoirs, I appreciated the change of pace this non-fiction work offered. Sonnet's unique perspective challenges conventional ideas about pleasure and control, providing thought-provoking insights into the psyche of a submissive.
However, some scenes in the "Soul" section are not only explicit but also crass, potentially requiring a trigger warning for sensitive readers. This aspect made me question whether more context or framing was necessary.
Despite these critiques, "Submit" offers a fascinating glimpse into one person's experiences and desires. It's an empowering narrative that demonstrates the author's control over her choices and story.
Overall, I give "Submit" 3.5 out of 5 stars for its compelling writing and unique subject matter.

Thanks to NetGalley and the Publisher for the early read.

This was a sexy and spicy read. If you're in for a wild ride, check out this book!