Based on the title, I could tell this was going to be a self-help book. It’s also verrry religious. If you’re against religion or aren’t really fond of Christianity… you may want to avoid.

I am not religious, but I really like how Jinger confronted her people-pleasing behavior and how it was hard to put it into her religion now and as a child. Another part of people-pleasing is overdoing it until you burn out, dont want to connect, and end up depressed and worse off. Jinger does a good job of explaining how community has helped her in her adult-life, and how even when things are tough we really need connection.. after all, it does keep us young. Also really enjoyed the questions given at the end.

People Pleaser was less like an autobiography and more towards a Christian life book. It was not stories of her life as much, but perhaps a bridge into writing other types of nonfiction. She did a fairly good job with it. Lots of references to scripture and what the Lord would want people pleasing to look like.
There were aspects of it that felt choppy and didn't quite flow as well as I would have liked but overall it was an enjoyable book and I look forward to reading more from her in the future.

This book is about and for those who struggle with pleasing others. Some cannot imagine this struggle, but for those who battle with the unnecessary feelings of anxiety and disappointment, sadness and constant frustration of wondering what others are thinking of us, it is definitely an obstacle we must work at recognizing and fighting against. This is not a book about the Duggar family or any current real or imagined scandal or angst going on in Jinger's life. It's just her attempt to help others with a spiritual struggle she battles herself.
I find her approach very genuine and also gentle. She does not belittle or berate, but rather gives examples of people pleasing in her own life, past and present, and suggests ways to help overcome the feelings and consequences of this familiar pattern. It is certainly appropriate if you are a Christian, but also applicable if you or someone you're close to finds themselves prone to this type of personality. I left with valid reminders of why constantly seeking to please others is actually a sign of pride and over-focus on self, without feeling condemned...but only motivated to change.
Thanks to NetGalley and Harper Collins Publishing for this ARC. All opinions are mine.

I used to watch the Duggar family when they had their first series on television. I also enjoyed reading Jill's memior and was hoping this book by Jinger would be similar in talking about the difficulties of growing up in a cult like family. This is definitely more of a Christian self-help book, instead of a memior. Jinger gives good advice and offers bible verses that relate to her experiences. I think it is organized in a proper manner and written as a conversation piece.

Thanks to NetGalley, Jinger Duggar Vuolo, and W Publishing and Thomas Nelson for allowing me to read an advanced reader copy of People Pleaser in the return of an honest review.

People Pleaser • Jinger Duggar Vuolo
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Thank you @netgalley @thomasnelson for the gifted eARC in exchange for my honest review!
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19K&C missed me, but I did enjoy watching Counting On when it aired. Ever since, I have followed some of the Duggar Family as they have journeyed beyond the IBLP and their upbringing to make their lives and their faith their own.
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As my buddy reader @emilylovesreading_ said in her review, this book takes a step beyond sharing about her past on TV, and is more of a Christian growth nonfiction look at people pleasing (even though she does share stories and references from her past).
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I enjoyed this book, though I do wish there had been a little more practical application. Jinger shares stories, scripture references and a look at how she has struggled with people pleasing and how she is working to grow out of that tendency. If you’re someone who is a fan of Jinger’s previous books, I think this would be for you!

Thank you for letting me read this ARC. The format was a little hard for me to concentrate. But a decent read. I love the Duggar family. And love seeing the girls come into their own in life.

As someone who watched every episode of 19 Kids and Counting as a kid and later learned about the Duggar family’s history with IBLP (a cult-like religious system), I was interested in hearing Jinger Duggar Vuolo’s take on people pleasing.

She begins her latest book with a story about how people pleasing made some of the things she loves (like hosting friends and family over) nerve-wracking and how some of her perfectionistic beliefs came to be. In each chapter, Jinger explains a different aspect of people pleasing and ways to reframe the negative thoughts behind it—usually by taking an honest look at our own motivations.

As a Christian, I liked how she connected familiar Bible verses and stories to themes like decision-making, fear and authenticity. Jinger was able to frame how certain kinds of people pleasing can be damaging for us and others, even to the point of being sinful. I’ve always known that people pleasing feels bad, but now I know why!

All in all, I thought People Pleaser was well-structured and engaging. Jinger’s personal stories are accessible and lighthearted, making this a fast read.

I drifted a bit toward the end when she focused more heavily on developing a relationship with Jesus because I felt secure in that already.

People Pleaser: Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations is available now! Thank you to Thomas Nelson for gifting me this ARC in exchange for my honest review ♥️

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