Member Reviews
This was a fine book. I will have to agree with some other readers that a bit of the practices are out of date. Thanks NetGalley and Publisher!
This was an excellent workbook. I have been in therapy for some time, but I always had an issue identifying emotion and turning into anger. It manifested in weird ways, short tempers, jealousy, low self esteem.
I think I’ve been working pretty well on identifying intense emotions and learning what triggers me and what feelings in my body help identify my emotion, but this book gave me more somatic practices and other things to think about.
If you’re new or in the mid stages of therapy you should really consider this book. I feel like identifying anger is so hard because we are told to not have it by certain parents, get put in your room to calm down rather than talking about it or feeling it… and the confusion hits when you is intense and might not be recognizable to you.
Thank you to NetGalley for the ebook in exchange for an honest review.
Explains types of anger (hidden, healthy, toxic) and its origins. Ways to transform it, deal with it, communicate healthily. Many (maybe too many) stories and examples. Lots of useful excercises to go go back to. Although the title says it’s anger for women, and the stories are about women, I feel like this could also apply to men.
NetGalley review
Not my favorite read, DFNed it half way through, she gives good recourses and other outlets to find information. But other than that want find of the book.
One of the book's key strengths is its focus on validation and strategies to move past anger. By emphasizing that anger is a natural and valid emotion, it helps reframe anger as a sign of passion and care. The book highlights that emotions are an essential indicator of boundaries. It also gives the reader skills to help regulate and understand emotions while helping control self-regulation and understand body awareness. This book is a helpful tool for readers to gain a deeper understanding of anger and reactionary impulses.
This is a good read for anyone looking to improve their anger. It was a quick read and I recommend to other looking to improve their life.
Releasing Toxic Anger for Women is a great resource for women trying to reclaim their lives from the often destructive emotion of anger. Karyne B. Wilner provides a seven-step guide to transforming anger including (1) Aware: Sensing your body’s energy (2) Uncover: Discover your anger’s source (3) Ground: Become an anger lightning rod (4) Release: Name it, claim it, let it go, let it flow (5) Transform: From hot headed to warm hearted (6) Share to spare: Build bridges to repair and (7) Transcend: Experiencing radical forgiveness.
There are three main forms of toxic anger including aggressive/expressive, suppressed/withheld, and passive-aggressive. The book includes somatic exercises, energy techniques, and encouragement of reframing of negative thoughts. There are over 40 different exercises and suggestions to utilize in overcoming emotions of anger.
I think Wilner’s book is a great resource both in self-help form as well as for clinicians looking for tools to help their clients. I definitely plan to buy a hardcover copy to utilize in my own therapeutic practice, as anger is a very common emotion in motherhood. This book does skew towards a more holistic approach and some of the discussions, like that about energy and chi, may feel a bit woo-woo to some readers.
Thank you to NetGalley, New Harbinger Publications, New Harbinger, and the author Karyne B. Wilner for an ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review.
I really wanted to love this, but there are some practices in here that I do not agree with as a licensed mental health provider. That said, there are some good interventions in this book as well. My advice would be that if you are planning to use this book, please also work with a therapist in tandem to make sure that you have adequate support to process any emotions that come up for you as you work through these exercises. Also, please know that most practicing therapists no longer endorse any type of intervention that mimics self-injury, such as snapping rubber bands/purposely causing yourself any type of pain or discomfort in order to stop a thought that is undesirable.
This book was not for me which doesn’t mean that it won’t be for you. I was excited about reading a book about anger and how it manifests in women, I was expecting to understand it more and to learn about how to deal with it. Unfortunately this book is based on things that are a big trigger for me, and the words holistic or integrative medicine just make me run the other way. Both are a scam that take advantage of vulnerable people, and it makes me angry when I see therapist using those terms, which I guess goes with the theme of the book after all.
I don’t normally read self help books, but I was enticed to read and I’m glad I did.
I personally love CBT and anytime I can get / learn new tools to help me on coping with anxiety or anger, I’m here for it - in this book you’re given a LOT of Exercises, so many in fact that I wish there a quick recap or index of just the exercises. I think this would be a great book on audio, just because you’ll want to actually do them and that’s hard to do when it the exercise begins with “close your eyes”
This is a book I’ll definitely revisit as I took away some great tips, but know there is more to be gained when put into practice.
The reason I didn’t give this book a 5 star was because the little “example stories” got to be a bit much. Sometimes they added value but other times they were just little blurbs basically repeating the point itself. I also found myself expecting an exercise or a tool only to not have one explained.
Thank you to NetGalley and New Harbinger publications for this ARC!