Member Reviews
This guided journal strikes a great balance between written content and journaling pages. The author shares information and helpful perspectives about miscarriage and baby loss, and she helps contextualize what mothers may be experiencing, validating common feelings and struggles. She also writes about this topic in a very holistic way, recognizing that baby loss affects people's bodies, minds, relationships, and spirits in an all-encompassing way, even though the specifics vary by person.
The journaling exercises ask insightful, open-ended questions about a variety of topics, and the author also includes exercises for body work related to emotional trauma. There are also pages where readers can fill out answers to more specific questions, such as listing out ways that they can show compassion to themselves. The author also intersperses some affirmations throughout. I'm not a fan of affirmations in general, because I think they're usually misused, but these were pretty solid. They're based more in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy than any ideas about manifestation.
Although I was impressed with this journal overall, I felt that the organization was somewhat random. For example, the section about telling friends and family about your miscarriage only appears towards the end. Why wait until the final quarter of the book to talk about this? I expect that only an extremely small minority of readers will reach this point of the book without having already shared their sad news, and the helpful advice and reflection prompts about this should have appeared at the beginning, to catch more readers before they've told people.
Regardless, there's a solid mix of journaling topics and exercises here, and they are general and open-ended enough to apply to readers with many different life situations, belief systems, and personalities. The author takes a holistic look at the reader's whole life, exploring many different ways that baby loss affects people, but she leaves things open for the reader to interpret and apply things for themselves, instead of making assumptions.
Many guided journals are overly New Age and communicate a specific worldview and belief system, but this one leaves things open to the reader's interpretation and application, without making assumptions or forcing a particular type of perspective. This author excels in asking truly open-ended questions that people can respond to in any number of ways, and this book can be tremendously helpful for many people.
In a world where baby loss in as common as 1/3, the fact that it's not usually talked about and considered by some taboo it's mind blowing for me. And it's also detrimental to people that start the journey to parenthood and start blaming themselves when they have to deal with this sort of grief, just because it's not talked about, even when it's such a common occurrence.
This book is helpful because it is written in a very easy to read and gentle way. When you are dealing with all these negative and overwhelming feelings, the last thing you might need is too read very scientific and long texts. At least for me, it would have to opposite effect. This is a guided journal, which mean that while it gives information, it also have questions and lots of space for you to reflect, and really reconnect with yourself while practicing self-care. The tips are clear, easy to apply to real life and the fact that it's guiding you slowly, while giving time to grief and acknowledges that in a case like those presented in the book, lots of time is needed to heal.