Maybe don't turn to dating apps...

As a self help cure? Just sayin'....Avery perhaps should have tried therapy first? But nope, at 27, she has a good life, but she wants to get it on (as she should!). She tries dating apps, which goes as well as you can expect it. Part of her gamer group is Derek...
Part cute dating, part serious health issue/dysfunction.
Recommend.

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I thoroughly enjoyed this book! The authors writing style had me hooked throughout this book.

I didn't want it to end, a book I really couldn't put down.

A Refreshingly Real, Hilarious, and Heartfelt Journey of Self-Discovery!

Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App by Sydney Wilder is a funny, raw, and surprisingly deep exploration of love, sex, and self-acceptance. If you’ve ever struggled with dating mishaps or felt like your life wasn’t following the "normal" trajectory, this book will make you laugh, cry, and feel totally seen.

Avery Murphy is the kind of FMC you can’t help but root for. After getting kicked out of bible college and shunned by her ultra-religious family, she’s rebuilt her life in Orlando, complete with a job she loves, a cozy townhouse, and a crew of fellow geeks she games with at her favourite tabletop shop. But despite all her wins, Avery is still grappling with a problem that’s been haunting her since college: she can’t have sex. And with her 27th birthday looming, she’s determined to find love and intimacy, even if it means swiping through a minefield of dating apps.

Avery’s journey through online dating is an absolute riot. From hilariously awkward first dates to misguided attempts at love, you’ll be laughing out loud as she navigates the wild world of modern romance.

But beneath the humour, there’s a real, heartfelt struggle as Avery confronts her inability to have sex, something that’s not just physical but tied up with years of shame, rejection, and confusion. Sydney Wilder tackles the subject of sexual dysfunction with sensitivity, turning it into an empowering and eye-opening narrative.

And then there’s Devin Lancaster, the snarky, charming owner of her favourite gaming shop. Devin is the perfect mix of witty banter and unexpected sweetness, and watching his relationship with Avery develop is one of the most enjoyable parts of the book. Their chemistry is as heartwarming as it is slow-burning, and you’ll find yourself cheering for them as their friendship evolves into something more.

What makes Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App stand out is how it blends laugh-out-loud humour with serious topics like sexual health, self-worth, and finding acceptance. Avery’s journey is not just about dating, it's about learning to love herself, tackle her fears, and embrace her own worth, even when life feels messy and complicated. When Avery uncovers the deeper reasons behind her physical pain, the story takes a powerful turn, reminding readers that sometimes the biggest obstacles to love are the ones we carry within ourselves.

If you’re looking for a refreshingly honest rom com with depth, heart, and plenty of laughs, Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App delivers.

Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App by Sydney Wilder was a fun read.
It was a light read with heartwarming characters.
I just adored it. The writing was great and the story was unique.

A solid friends to lovers/fake dating that includes health issues you normally don’t see in this genre and a really deft handling of purity culture and religious trauma.

I absolutely ADORED this book. I feel like the title doesn't do justice to all of the important topics and beautiful themes covered in this book. BUT I do feel like it fits with a big theme of the book which is not judging a book by it's cover. I loved how completely nerdy this book was. It also healed something within me as someone who grew up in an extremely Christian household. The main character resonated with me so much. I'm going to recommend this book to so many people!

"Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App" took me completely by surprise. I loved this book and I can already feel a re-read coming along.

I loved that we started the book with action right away. It immediately grabbed my attention and hooked me into the story. I also instantly fell in love with Sydney Wilder's voice as an author. Her writing doesn't make the you feel like you're reading, and she has great flow and pacing along with the content.

I loved the Dungeons and Dragons scenes! As someone who personally does not play D&D, I thought Wilder did a great job guiding the reader along. The rules were explained clearly but not overly done. The game play was interesting, captivating, and aided the story.

Avery was immediately relatable. Her internal dialogue was so genuine and realistic that she felt like a real person rather than a fictional character. Even if someone hasn't gone through the same conflicts Avery has, they can still find a way to connect with her. Also, she is hilarious!

The chemistry between Avery and Devin is insane. I was rooting for them in full force throughout. Avery's personal conflict also tied in nicely with their relationship and conflict together. They had such complimentary personalities that it was undeniable that they should be together. Devin is the perfect example of how the little things matter more than big romantic gestures.

I had such a great time reading this book and can not wait to see what Wilder does in the future!

The title definitely makes it seem like a stereotypical rom com! But it’s much more, there are definitely darker topics and awareness throughout this book. Even endometriosis is discussed here and that’s never in books, yet it’s so important to bring up so many women struggle with this.

Also the effects of religious trauma, it can definitely get dark so beware. This may not be a book for everyone. But as someone who is now not religious, this shined lights in many ways for me.

I loved the found family and support aspect of this book as well. Support is so important.

I really did like this book,
The writer tackles issues like sexual dysfunction,endometriosis and past trauma without making it too heavy. It's still a light hearted lovely contemporary romance with humor and a lot of nerdy aspects. Love the slow burn spice and the way he takes care of her, he is there when she needs him the most. I was really moved by this book.

Things I really enjoyed & appreciated about this book include: deep discussions on uncomfortable topics such as sexual dysfunction and trauma, endometriosis, periods/period pains, recovery, and religious trauma. I also really enjoyed how sweet and considerate the main male character, Devin was.

Things I felt the book could have done better: the title- it should have been something to the effect of "Confessions of a Virgin Gaming Geek" but that would not have been as good of a title, less detailed gaming interactions, MORE confessions from the dating app experiences.

I read this as an advanced reading copy from NetGalley so I wanted to make sure I read through the book in its entirety, which got much easier about 1/3 of the way in. Avery is a strong character who wants to find a nice guy who can understand her sexual dysfunction issues and love her for who she is. Overall, a cute read on real life issues and real life romance.

She’s a little geeky (in the best way) and constantly being let down by men. Enter the dreaded online dating. It’s a fun and quirky romance that was enjoyable to read. The story also focuses on the struggles of endometriosis and I really enjoyed the representation of such an under acknowledged condition. I would recommend!

*Title: Confessions of a Virgin on a Dating App-a standalone

*Release date: 9-13-24 | Read: 9-5-24

*Author: Sydney Wilder-new to me author

*Format: e-book, 374 pgs.

Thanks to NetGalley and Victory Editing NetGalley Co-op for this ARC 💙! I voluntarily give my honest review, and all opinions expressed are my known.

*Setting: Orlando, FL

*Genre: New Adult, Rom-Com/Contemporary Romance, Women's Fic

*Tropes: found family, family drama, friends to lovers, slow burn, age gap, online dating, video games

*Look out for: SA attempt, stalking, virgin h, h has sexual and reproductive issues, mental health-H and h, drug use-H's past, self-harm-H'S past, religious zealots-H and h's parents, miscarriage-not h, STD-not H/h

*Synopsis: Avery tried to have sex with her college boyfriend Tyler while at her Catholic private school, but her "condition" kept that from happening- and she got caught by her RA. Feeling shamed by her parents after being expelled, she moves to Florida after graduation. Five years later, she's estranged from her family, but she finds a new one in a little gaming shop with a few misfits. The owner Devin notices she is ill and when she faints in the shop, he steps in to help her.

*Characters

* Avery Murphy (26) works for publishing company, a book lover, looking for love
* Devin Lancaster (35) owns Critical Games Shop, has tats/scars/piercings, divorced, pastor's kid
* Cassidy-Avery's roommate and BFF
* Marie and James-Avery's Catholic, strict parents
* Aaron-Avery's found friend at the shop, likes Cass
* Anthony-Avery goes one date w/ him; things don't work out and he stalks her.
*Tristan-another online date, tries to sleep together, ends badly

*Review: This is a great representation for discussing female sexual and reproductive dysfunctions. It's not talked about enough, and so many women dealt with it in silence like Avery's mother Marie. James, Avery's father is complacent but every once in a while, a guy like Devin shows he cared. He's so patient with Avery and pushed her to seek help-another dream book boyfriend!

*Rating: 4/5 ⭐⭐⭐⭐

*Spice level- 4/5 🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️

Thank you to NetGalley and the Victory Editing NetGalley Co-Op for providing the ARC.

This book was such a vulnerable and endearing exploration of sex and relationships with someone that has a chronic illness and sexual dysfunction because of it (among other things). As someone who also suffers from endometriosis, I saw a lot of myself in Avery, from the deterioration of her relationships to the complete and utter relief I could feel jumping off the page at getting her diagnosis. I feel like endometriosis and vaginismus never are talked about, but they are very real issues that plague women.

One of the things that this book does really well is breakdown the wall for women to talk about things that society has conditioned them to keep quiet. Women are meant to grin and bear terrible periods, with so much pain they can't move, or they pass out, or they throw up, or even all three. We don't get to talk about painful sex because of an abstinence-only purity culture that tells us that even just discussing something like sexual dysfunction is a sin. I truly appreciate Wilder being able to balance out the need to draw attention to those matters without it overpowering the rest of the story.

And really, these characters are so wonderful. I love Erin and Devin and how they found each other through D&D/gaming. The whole thing I was reading, it felt like a session that I might have with my own friend group, and I could really connect with the characters. And because my experience was so accurately mirrored in Avery's experience, it truly felt like this book was written specifically for me.

Amazing book from an amazing author.

----I was kindly given an early copy of this book via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review---

Ok so this book wasn't for me...let me elaborate.

The synopsis clearly explains that this story touches on health conditions connected to the reproductive system, no problem there, I was a pre-med student for three years so I'm not squirmy but I just couldn't deal with the FMC's pure lack of knowledge of her own anatomy. I totally understand that she came from a religious background but as someone with a similar back story, some of the things she didn't know were just plain basic.
That aside, the characters were nice, but the romance felt a bit rushed, they went from being polite and distant to totally in love after two pages.

I did enjoy reading about people with different hobbies from mine, but what I wasn't expecting was the amount of on-page detailed table game sessions I read throughout the entire book. Still, it was nice to learn how these types of games happen in real life.

I feel like I'm not the target audience for this book, the title lead me to believe that the online dating aspect was going to be fundamental and although it is very important for the course of events to happen, they weren't fun at all.

Also, there were some cohesion issues in the last chapters. Maybe is because this is an ARC but it took me out of the story.

I normally don't like writing negative reviews but I'm in my toxic era right now so, here it is.

This book was good!

I feel there were parts that felt rushed and could have been built on more. Suddenly it’s been two weeks and they love each other etc.

However that being said, I’m a sucker for romance and a happy ending so I was happy and giddy at the end. Especially after everything when they finally did ‘it’!

It was great to see some different too. Conditions such endometriosis are only really now beginning to be talked about and this opens up for more discussions. The more people who read books such as this the more people get educated on the matter. All it takes is one small mention for someone to look it up and do a little research on it.

Thank you to NetGalley and Victory Editing NetGalley Co-op for an advanced copy of this book.

I really enjoyed this book; the author covers so many topics that are often glossed over (or not discussed) in general circles. I wish that there had been more development between the main female character and her best friend; late into the book we discover that they have more similar experiences than previously thought, and while that could have been a jumping-off point for a deeper friendship, nothing really further happens there.

Overall, it was a quick engaging read that I was eager to go back to until I finally finished it.

Thank you NetGalley and publisher for this arc!

What a good book! I enjoyed this more than I thought I would. This is a first by this author but will not be my last! I read this in one sitting because I just couldn’t put it down.

I was a mid twenties virgin on dating apps with similar health issues, who loves boardgames and RPGs, so I thought I would be the ideal audience for this book. I wasn't. I don't have trauma related to a strict religious upbringing, which is central to the Main Characters struggles, and so struggled to understand or relate to Avery past a very superficial level. Everything that bothered me or made me question her decisions, essentially boiled down to that. So please keep in mind that while I tall about the rest of my opinions, I was likely not the intended audience.

I felt insulted or shamed at some points, where it felt like religion was the only reason to be an adult virgin, for not caring about shaving my pubic area, and being in my PJs at 11am on a Saturday.

However, it was a very well written book, and a lovely story about a young woman working through her past and discovering more about herself. I actually wouldn't classify it as a romance book, even though there is a very sweet, basically perfect, love interest in Devin. Because the story isn't about them, it's understandably all about her and her path through adulthood and health issues that have plagued her for years.

I love the endo representation, even if I am envious of Avery for only having her pain/problem for one night every cycle (at least that's the way it was described), and the very supportive and informative way the author dealt with the subject.

I usually struggle to pay attention to game play description in sports romance, and thought it would be no different for games I actually play, but I enjoyed reading the snippets of their group's RPG time.

While I appreciate how supportive Devin was and their budding relationship was adorable to read about, I do wish they had developed the friendship between Avery and Cass more. Especially in a story about womanhood and women's health issues, I was really surprised to see no sisterhood, no talks about in depth talks about love lives or sex or bodily questions, with what Avery calls her best friend, until after Avery has already started to deal with it. Every step of the story was only pushed forward by a man. She found very little by herself and nothing through talking to another woman. I understand how important it is to have a supportive and understanding partner, but I really think not having the deeper friendship, as well as some snippets of her thoughts did give some 'pick me' vibes and alienated part of the book's possible audience.

I personally think that not every book needs an epilogue, and that this one was a longer than i wouldve liked. I believe the majority of the content covered would've been better as chapter 25, finishing out the story. The content of the epilogue mattered too much to the central story, it didn't happen sperately from it, without it the story didn't feel concluded, and it's my beliefe that should not be the case for an epilogue.

I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

This was such a fresh story!
The book deals with heavy topics like religious trauma and endometriosis, yet, it's easy to read. It's also nerdy and fun, with so many happy moments. I am usually not a fan of age gap, but with this story, I didn't mind at all.
Both characters were lovable. I really like Devin. He has the biggest heart. A perfect boyfriend. Avie is great, too. I am super glad she got the diagnosis, and found support. I was rooting for her during whole book. My boyfriend is super nerdy, but I am not gamer. Parts in game shop felt a bit boring for me.
I really enjoyed the writing of the author. It felt fresh, easy to read, yet meaningful.
Overall, I really reccomend this book! Especially to those who struggle with endometriosis, or to those who wants something light, easy and meaningful.

Thank you to Net Gallery shelf for eARC.

Being a woman is hard — FMC Avery knows that well, but seriously, get you a man who will teach you games, get your favorite restaurant delivered post-surgery, and who will never pressure you about anything you’re not comfortable with. So much rooted Christian trauma made me connect with Avery and Devin so well, and I love how the past made the two connect so well to each other as well. All I know is that you should never settle for anybody who makes you feel less, and these two show that so well.