An important look at social media and the patriarchal judgemental set-up of the internet as a whole, this is a must-read for anyone who uses the internet and anyone involved in journalism. The author herself received unbalanced hateful commentary on an article she wrote, and she sought out others who have experienced racism, hate speech, and doxxing. Many of her resources come from essays and in-person interviews, and this was a well-researched, thoughtful look at why things are the way they are, and what they could be. It is an important call to action that we should all heed.

A thorough look at women’s experiences of online abuse and how the internet (and the people on it) grew to foster and encourage such abuse. Alia Dastagir details not just personal stories, but the layers of facing this type of abuse — race, disability, religion, and sexuality, as well as experiences of anger and humor, trauma and self-care, safety and solidarity — and how these function under patriarchal norms. There’s a satisfying balance of stories and quotes from popular feminist figures like Gloria Steinem and Mikki Kendall; academics and journalists; and everyday women. Some analysis is 101-level, but I mention this only as someone who knew I likely wouldn’t get as much out of it as someone who spends less time online. Well-researched and, as ever, painfully timely.

An informative and impactful look at the impact of online sexual violence against women. The book takes a deep dive into the experiences of numerous women and how the hateful messages they received impacted them. This is an important book that should be in every public and academic library.

Somehow this book is beautiful even while it describes the terrible realities of being a woman online. I have a gender neutral name and I have found that I do better online when I use my husband's picture. But that makes it harder to connect with other women.
I have recently stepped away from social media and I wish I didn't have to.
I just want to thank you for writing this book and letting these women share these sadly relatable stories.

This is an important book, but I found parts of it too triggering for me to be able to read. The sections that I was able to read were engaging and well-written. I do recommend this book for those who can delve into the subject.
Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for the opportunity to read in exchange for an honest review.