I found the stories in this book to be interesting. Sadly they are far from unique. Cases like these are becoming more common as DNA testing is made more affordable and genealogy as a whole becomes easier to access.
One thing I would like to know is how the discovery impacted people and their families afterward, but for many the discovery is too recent to really expand on.
I did appreciate the author's decision to protect anonymity when requested. She treated each story and its teller with respect and acknowledged how difficult the potential fallout may be.
I would suggest this book to anyone who is interested in genetic genealogy. It is a fascinating look at how families are formed, secrets and all.
My thanks to the author, publisher, and NetGalley for an advance copy of this book.

As someone who was told their mom had a child before me she placed for adoption, I find stories like Lukasik's interesting. I read and write a lot about adoption and finding birth families. This book was so well researched and I enjoyed how the chapters broke into concise sections and topics. Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC. I highly suggest this to families to read.

This book has some interesting stories about those who discover they were adopted, or that their births were the result of AI treatment. The former stories were more engaging than the latter. An adopted woman raised black discovers her biological parents were white. An adopted policeman learns his biological father was in prison for murder. An adopted Italian-American doctor finds out he had a black biological parent. (Apparently it was common practice during certain time periods to place biracial babies with Italian families. Then darker skin colors could be passed off as olive.)

Author Gail Lukasik does a pretty good job of balancing the needs of individuals to know their true biological background, with the needs of mothers and fathers to keep such information secret for one reason or another. Yet I'm still not totally convinced that not knowing such secrets, or being taken away from a biological mother, causes permanent psychological damage. I'm afraid many such stories by those who didn't know such secrets sound self-absorbed and self-pitying. Not the ones in this book, mind you, but many others in articles and memoirs, such as "Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love" by Dani Shapiro.

There is great emphasis in this book on the need to be with one's "tribe", as well as in the need to find someone who looks like one does. But not everyone needs such things. By the third decade of life, it's common to have developed a strong independent identity, independent of one's parents and others. Moreover, not everyone who discovers later in life that their ethnic background isn't what they were told as a child gets terribly upset about the matter. How truly important is ethnicity, race and DNA? Those things are only as important as someone wants to make them.