Oh this one was delicious. I haven’t read Bellies by Nicola Dinan (yet) but after this absolutely stunning novel, I’m running to get it.

Disappoint Me by Nicola Dinan is a raw, honest exploration of love, heartbreak, and self-discovery. Through sharp dialogue and complex character dynamics, Dinan captures the emotional turbulence of navigating relationships while grappling with personal growth. The novel's nuanced portrayal of vulnerability and resilience leaves a lasting impact, making it a compelling read for anyone interested in the messy realities of life and love.

This book is written from the heart and soul. I laughed, I cried, my jaw hit the floor numerous times. I didn’t know what i expected from this book going in but I finished feeling seen, understood, and heard. This book is for anyone lost in their late 20s or early 30s, anyone unsure if you’re deserving of love or unsure where to go next. I was over the moon for this book and its characters.

Really enjoyed this piece by Nicola Dinan. Max's restlessness and dissatisfaction with what should be a happy life is painfully relatable. Despite Max and Vincent each having their own hang ups and issues, I was rooting for them to work everything out. A testament that nothing is ever as simple as "black and white", people and the relationships we have with them included.

4.5 ⭐️
If this book doesn’t make it onto the top releases of 2025 lists, I will be not only surprised but disappointed. Reading this made me excited for the future of literary fiction in the coming new year. The pacing and tones and conversations within Disappoint Me cover so many bases in such a graceful way. I highly recommend that everyone get their hands on a copy on release day!
Thank you to NetGalley and The Dial Press for the e-ARC!

This book delivered everything I wanted and more. Bellies walked so Disappoint Me could run. I was so deeply moved by Max and Vincent and their innate humanness and all that comes with growing older. This story was so human. It was perfect. 10/10

This is my first Nicola Dinan novel, and I definitely was not disappointed! I found both characters, Max and Vincent, to be intriguing characters that held my interest throughout. It was also really interesting to see a heteronormative relationship/lifestyle through the eyes of a trans woman, and I’m glad I ended up requesting this.

Thank you to NetGalley and Random House for the arc!

Well, I loved this.

I finished this book a few days ago, and it has lingered with me in a way I did not expect. I keep thinking of Max and wondering what she is up to, as if she is a real person I know and not a character in a book.

This book follows Max, a trans woman who suffers an injury at a party and decides to make some changes in her life- namely, she embarks on a new relationship with a man who is not her usual type. She navigates issues with her own family and personal life while also dealing with the new experiences that come with dating a man who lives a very different lifestyle than hers.

What I liked:
I think this book is a perfect mix of character and plot developments. A lot of this book is Max’s inner thoughts as she grows and changes as a person. Yet, there is also a lot of things happening- throughout this book, Max travels to several different countries and is always up to something new.

I just really really liked Max. She is a complicated person and I felt she was incredibly relatable and sympathetic. She is not without flaws and is very willing to acknowledge them. She is a good friend, a good partner, a good daughter, and a good sister, yet she makes realistic mistakes in those relationships.

There are some core themes here about what you can forgive a person for and much how a person can really change. I don’t want to give any spoilers about this, but I loved what the author did with the flashbacks to what Vincent did in his past. I love when an author can make me feel such conflicting things for a character, and that 100% succeeded here.

Honestly, I cannot think of a single thing I did not like about this book and if I were going to put spoilers in here, I think I could talk about it for hours. I loved this, and will definitely be seeking out more books by this author in the future.

5 stars for an emotional, thought provoking, beautiful read.


thanks to NetGalley for a free copy in exchange for an unbiased review!

I really enjoyed this book! An incisive and fresh character study of a trans poet whose new boyfriend introduces a sense of security that both charms her and makes her question the shape of her life. Meanwhile, we get glimpses into his past that eventually collide with the present. A sharp and witty look at memory, forgiveness, and how we decide both who we are and who we want to be. Highly recommend.

This was my first from Nicola Dinan and I really liked it. The writing was witty and entertaining. The characters were dynamic and different from one another which made the reading experience much more interesting. Books like this tend to be hit or miss for me, a girl lost in love and life and has that "messy girl" stumbling through life type of story, but this book was a real hit and I think it has everything to do with Dinan's writing style. I really enjoyed it from the first to the last page. I think the book was the right length because I was left satisfied after reading the story and didn't feel like it dragged on too long, something that also causes me to feel wary about this genre from time to time. This book overall was a great read that I greatly enjoyed during my holiday travels and highly recommend it for anyone looking for a good literary/contemporary book.

An interesting read! I loved the way the author described each setting and laid out the dialogue (even if some of the slang seemed too current especially in the beginning of the book) The dual perspective was nice, laying all the pieces of the story in place. The past and the present in different chapters.

The characters were engaging and I was intrigued to see where they’d end up. The descriptions were very vivid and called everything in each scene to mind immediately. The two foremost characters had a very interesting dynamic. The relationship the main character has with her parents was also quite realistic. The characters were flawed but the way the author presents them is very believable and I’d be interested in reading another novel written by her.

The following review will be posted as of November 23, 2024 on Goodreads. https://www.goodreads.com/review/list/99549120-hannah

Some books require a slow burn before they fully captivate, but from the fourth chapter onward, I was thoroughly engrossed. The dual perspective between Max and Vincent is executed with remarkable fluidity, allowing the narrative to seamlessly shift between their points of view without disrupting the flow. I found myself deeply engaged in both perspectives, never once feeling detached or disinterested. The author excels in illustrating the subtle dynamics of human interaction, deftly highlighting the impact of casual, often careless conversation and the pervasive, intrusive thoughts that continually shape our inner lives.

“You can fall in love with an outline, you can even make a home with one, but there will come a time when you can’t deny the bones their flesh. No person is fewer than two things.”

What starts as a thin framework of emotional connection must inevitably confront the messy, human layers beneath. The characters can no longer remain content with the outline—they must reckon with their pasts, their insecurities, and the parts of themselves they would rather not face. Dinan beautifully shows how love, in its truest form, requires more than surface-level affection—it demands vulnerability, change, and, at times, the willingness to disappoint and be disappointed.

I loved this book, would read it again. It’s a book worth having on the bookshelf!

I was a bit confused at the beginning, because it was a lot of thoughts being spoken out loud alongside her thought process, but I ended up figured it out. The writing was amazing though. I loved how messy the characters were. It felt very realistic. It's a very great read.

I really, really love Nicola Dinan’s authorial voice. I love the way she writes and develops her characters, makes them complex and fallible and very human. I liked Bellies, her first novel, but I liked this one even more. It felt tighter and more precise. Max, thirty and disappointed with the state of her life, begins a relationships with Vincent, a lawyer, with a much more traditional, heteronormative life. These two are kind and cruel to one another, and are navigating queerness and race and domesticity together. The writing feels very internal, which makes the characters feel very real. This is also just a funny book! I found myself highlighting passage after passage. I’ll keep an eye on whatever Nicola releases in the future.

Thank you NetGalley for an advanced copy!
Nicola Dinan is a master in my mind at creating in-depth, flawed and unique characters. Their messiness in relationships and friendships is so realistic. You really feel for certain characters while growing to hate others. This story is told from two perspectives and two different timelines. It kind of explains present day by slowly feeding you the past which I love in a book. Nicola is an auto-buy author for me so I'm looking forward to grabbing a copy of this when it comes out next May!

Nicola Dinan has done it again. Following her award-winning debut novel, *Bellies*, *Disappoint Me* is another outstanding, witty, and tender coming-of-age story.

Life in your thirties can be a transformative time, filled with both opportunities and challenges. From careers to relationships, financial stability to family dynamics, our thirties are often marked by various expectations— expectations from society, family, and ourselves. When you factor in the cultural expectations surrounding queerness, gender roles, racial and ethnic identities, and millennial ideals, it becomes clear that no one can meet all these demands.

The protagonist, Max, is a disillusioned trans poet who falls for Vincent, a "normie," or cis-het corporate lawyer. Throughout the novel, Max, Vincent, and their peers judge themselves and each other, often adhering to rigid moral standards. However, life and people are far more nuanced; truth often exists in shades of gray rather than just black and white. No one is entirely good or bad, right or wrong.

The characters have complex identities—some are multiracial, have lived in different countries, or identify as transgender and queer. Their lives are shaped by personal choices and experiences. This novel beautifully portrays the journey of growing up and realizing that everyone is human, including our parents, who did the best they could at that time. It explores themes of understanding, nuance, forgiveness, growth, and healing.

I highly recommend this book, but I advise readers to be aware that it addresses transphobia and to review content warnings (CWs) beforehand.

Thank you to NetGalley and Random House for this wonderful ARC. I will be purchasing it when it comes out!

first of all thank you so much for the opportunity of receiving an ARC <3

second the review, i cant lie in the beginning of this book i was so confused on what i was reading because it’s a lot of max’s thoughts being spoken aloud along with her thought process and it didn’t take me until a chapter or 2 later to understand. (so thankful for the dual pov to understand more of the story)

however, the writing itself was great & i love that the few main focuses here are forgiveness, growth, identity & relationships. nicola did a great job with situations & issues in the book not being fully solved and instead made a reference of “the world kept spinning” because that happens in life, it’s never a stand still no matter what you’re going though. i personally love that the characters in this novel are messy because it captures the amount of inner monologues they have before speaking, the thoughts they have that are running at miles per hour, it captures the growth aspect of this book well.

the book is a great read but i can definitely see the book not being for certain people & overall nicola’s writing is intriguing and makes me want to read more of her work in the near future :)