Carla Fernandez’s Renegade Grief is a deeply personal, raw, and revolutionary take on grief—one that challenges traditional mourning norms and offers a liberating perspective for those navigating loss. Fernandez, co-founder of The Dinner Party, brings her firsthand experience with grief into a book that is equal parts guide, manifesto, and heartfelt conversation.

Unlike conventional grief books that follow structured stages, Renegade Grief embraces the messiness of mourning, acknowledging that grief doesn’t fit into neat timelines. Fernandez gives readers permission to grieve on their own terms, rejecting societal expectations that often leave people feeling isolated or judged. Through a mix of personal anecdotes, cultural critiques, and practical tools, she encourages readers to redefine their relationship with loss.

One of the book’s most powerful aspects is its emphasis on community and connection. Fernandez highlights the importance of finding spaces—both in-person and online—where people can grieve without pressure or judgment. She also addresses the role of systemic issues in grief, including workplace bereavement policies and the lack of communal support in modern society.

Renegade Grief is not a step-by-step manual, but rather a companion for anyone feeling like their grief doesn’t fit the mold. It’s an invitation to grieve in a way that feels right for you—whether that means breaking traditions, redefining rituals, or simply sitting with your feelings without expectation.

With its honest and empowering approach, this book is a must-read for anyone seeking validation and freedom in their grief journey.

This book was so helpful! I lost my dad in March and grief hits me in waves at all different times. Carla’s suggestions for remembering loved one and coping with loss and grief are abundant. I’ll be suggesting this to so many. Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC.