Fantastic, great material! Looking forwarding to using this to help future clients and support my work as a therapist.

There was so much good information in this book! Incredibly informative and thought provoking. I would definitely read this again and take more notes next time so that I can integrate more of this information into my own life!

Healing Relational Trauma by Melissa Fulgieri is one of those books that just makes sense from the start. It takes something as complex as childhood relational trauma and breaks it down in a way that feels easy to follow, but never watered down. I really appreciated how she explains things step by step by using examples, analogies, and a tone that feels more like a conversation than a lecture.
One of my favorite aspects of the book is how interactive it is. The reflective exercises throughout really helped me pause and connect the dots in my own life like identifying triggers, unpacking emotional responses, and recognizing recurring patterns in relationships. Fulgieri’s discussion on attachment styles was especially eye-opening; it helped me see why I respond the way I do in certain situations and, more importantly, how to start shifting those dynamics.
The tone of the book is warm and inviting, which made it easier to engage with some of the more difficult concepts. I found myself highlighting sections that spoke directly to things I’ve experienced but never had the language to articulate. This book doesn’t promise overnight transformation, but it offers something more powerful. A grounded, compassionate starting point for healing, growth, and more intentional relationships.
Huge thanks to NetGalley and New Harbinger Publications for the advanced copy! It's a book I’ll definitely be returning to.

Healing Relational Trauma by Melissa Fulgieri offers a simple yet intuitive approach to understanding how childhood relational trauma impacts our relationships with ourselves and others. The book’s structure is gradual and accessible, starting with key concepts, analogies, and descriptions, and then building on them in a way that’s easy to understand and apply. The tone is both informative and approachable, making complex ideas feel digestible.

The book excels in its clear, eloquent presentation, offering practical exercises to deepen self-awareness, understand trauma, and recognize triggers. The strategies are valuable for anyone looking to improve emotional intelligence, build healthier relationships, and navigate interpersonal dynamics with greater awareness. Fulgieri’s insights into attachment styles and how they shape our interactions are incredibly eye-opening, offering readers actionable tools to recognize and address relational patterns and create stronger, more authentic connections.

This book provides a solid foundation for healing relational trauma, promoting emotional growth, and cultivating healthier, more authentic relationships.

I appreciate NetGalley and New Harbinger Publications for the opportunity to read this early copy!

ok wow? this tiny book was an absolute game-changer for anyone who has ever struggled with love, trust, or intimacy. if you’ve felt unworthy in relationships, feared abandonment, or found yourself stuck in unhealthy patterns, this book offers the clarity and tools you need to heal. it breaks down how childhood wounds—whether from neglect, emotional distance, or unmet needs shape the way we connect as adults. most importantly, it reminds you that none of this is your fault, and real change is possible.

very relatable if you're in a long term marriage or relationship. it's not just about attachment styles and trauma; it’s about feeling seen, understanding yourself on a whole new level, and learning how to build the kind of love you actually deserve. With practical exercises, communication tips, and real-life examples, it teaches you how to set boundaries, navigate triggers, and create healthier, stronger relationships.

this book hit me hard. i reflected so much and i saw my marriage and myself differently. it helped me understand where my fears came from and, more importantly, how to move past them.

this was incredibly validating—i can’t recommend it enough.

4.5 ⭐️
thank you New Harbinger Pub for a copy!

Never have I ever felt so called out and yet so understood by a book before. I’ve read countless self-help books over the years, but none have pulled me in as quickly or as deeply as Healing Relational Trauma by Melissa Fulgieri. Generational and relational trauma—especially the kind that carries over from childhood, whether we remember it or not—is very real. While conversations around this topic are becoming more open, there’s still a long way to go.

Fulgieri frequently references The Body Keeps the Score, last year’s “it girl” of trauma books. However, at a fraction of the size, I found Healing Relational Trauma to be even more impactful. Rather than wading through dense medical jargon and endless case studies, this book delivers its insights in a way that feels accessible and human—all in under 200 pages.

Since I read this as an ARC (thank you, NetGalley and New Harbinger Publications!), I moved through it faster than I normally would. But I fully intend to do a reread and take my time working through the exercises and worksheets. Even without completing the assignments, I was able to recognize so many truths about my attachment styles and how they shape my relationships. While the book is framed around deepening romantic connections, I believe its lessons apply to all relationships in life.

This is a must-read for anyone looking to heal from the past and build healthier connections. Five stars—highly recommend!