Easy-to-read, informative book about the influence of emotionally immature people to their (now) adult children.

I find this book being interesting and full of food for thought. It acknowledges the "old", but not often realized truth about how the importance of person's growing years and the influence of their closest persons - their parents (and/or siblings). The patterns learned in childhood are hard to transform because they were planted into the tender soil - the children, who, at that time, were not able to evaluate them correctly.
This book address the types of the emotionally immature parents and the types of children coming from this kind of parenting: internalizers and externalizers. The book focus more on internalizers, who are (according to authoress's opinion) more interested in internal world and in thinking about the change process.
It also identifies the streategies of how to cope with emotionally immature parents and identifies the emotionally mature behaviour.
The style is warm and gentle and the authoress is obviously a warm, approachable person (always a plus for the coach/psychologist/therapeut atc.!).

Generally I find the book being quite useful and informative, but I would recommend to read more on the subject. "Emotional immaturity" can be often use as an euphemism for selfishness or immaturity as whole. It is also useful to read more about the victim mentality and the change the children coming from this kind of parenting should try to apply on themselves - the book more concentraces on identifying the parental mistakes than on the work adults coming from this kind of parenting should make as their own maturity is concerned. Being shown the mistakes of the parents also means to acknowledge their children should work on their personality as they might need to grow and mature above the hurtful treatment (as they might use the wrong patterns on themselves - like when realizing they were the victims og thr wrong parenting, they might shift into the victim mentality).
The chapter on emotional maturity is a bit confusing also - as there is no such an example of the mature person living, as far as I am concerned. We all make mistakes - and the children of immature parents need to understand that the way is the aim, the process of moving towards the greater good.
I recommend the book as a part of the growing process to all who might suffer from the immaturity of their parents in hope they can reach the freedom of the hurts past and present and can move on towards their best selves.