Jeddah Bride
by Patricia Bonis
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Pub Date Dec 04 2024 | Archive Date Not set
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Description
To what lengths would you go to save your children? Would you sacrifice your safety? Your sanity? Your life?
Patricia fell madly in love with Rahman Abbar, scion of a wealthy Saudi Arabian family, and when he suggested they marry, it was the happiest day of her life. A smart, free-spirited girl who had attended Wellesley College, Patricia was not prepared for life as a Saudi woman-a life spent looking through curtains and veils at the world outside, a life that of necessity was curtailed and protected from the toxic masculinity of the culture, a life that, for an American girl used to sneaking out and hitchhiking, was dangerous and frightening and alien.
She was not prepared to give up all her freedom: freedom to drive herself, to go where she wanted when she wanted, to read books and listen to music she wanted, even to give up making a career for herself. But shouldn't love be enough to overcome everything?
After years in Jeddah, Patricia and Rahman moved to America, where Patricia gave birth to two children and started her own successful career. She thought that surely their family was complete, that now they would stay in America to raise their children in freedom and security.
Then Rahman starts talking about leaving America and moving back into the jet-set lifestyle-regardless of Patricia's needs and wishes. After previous disappointments, Patricia is ready to divorce him and strike out on her own.
She is not ready for her children to be kidnapped.
Available Editions
EDITION | Paperback |
ISBN | 9781957586410 |
PRICE | $14.99 (USD) |
PAGES | 269 |
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Featured Reviews

OK, this story is amazing. It is absolutely amazing. By far one of my favorite books of all time. The story is amazing and jaw dropping. Just when you think things could not get any crazier -- you guessed it -- it gets crazier. I was amazing at the quality of writing and the flow of the story. I literally had a hard time putting it down. When I went out and put the book down, I found myself talking to my friends about the storyline. I could not wait to go back and finish. The book is that good. The author, married to a Saudi Man, had such a wild life from living in Saudi Arabia, to a horse farm in Florida and a story that even Hollywood could not dream up. Can you tell I loved the book? I would highly recommend and have been telling all of my friends to read.

Wow ! What a great story.
Engaging story that drew me in from the very first pages. No runway to ramp up needed here !
I didn't read the book in one sitting but every time I picked it up to read it, I was so engaged in the story I stepped right back into the book ...
This is an informative book with a compelling true story of a young woman who falls in love with a Saudi Arabian man, partially lured in by his lavish, jet setting lifestyle. It continues on as she follows her husband ( she married the Saudi Arabian ) around the world time and time again on his newest passion whether it's playing polo or ( supposedly ) working for the family business or gaining additional unneeded higher education.
From the reader's point of view the author sees clear signs of his philandering, lying, disingenuous engagement in the marriage, all of which are a normal and acceptable pattern in the Saudi Arabian culture.
I learned a lot about the values and priorities of Middle Eastern culture and went on the author's journey as she tries to hold her lifestyle and marriage together, while it clearly unravels right in front of her.

I appreciated getting to read this book, it had that element that I was looking for and enjoyed the story being told. I appreciated Patricia Bonis sharing their story with the reader.

Reading the description of this memoir might give the reader the idea it is mostly about the author's divorce and the kidnapping of her children, but those two topics are only covered briefly towards the end of the book. Personally, I was glad about that, because long drawn-out divorce stories and custody battles often make tedious reading. This story was anything but tedious, and provided much insight on how wives and women in general were treated in Saudi Arabia.
In the 1970s, Patricia Bonis was a college student at Wellesley College, basking in the freedom college life provided. She could be described as a bit of a wild girl, who was also a bit wild back in high school, and for sure a party girl. At one college party she met a Saudi named Rahman Abbar who dazzled her with his looks, worldliness, money and desire for fun and excitement. Ms. Bonis came from a wealthy family, but nowhere near as wealthy as the Abbars in Jeddah.
After two years of a whirlwind romance, reality began to set in when Mr. Abbar's family was coming to Boston for his graduation. Surprisingly, the author was soon seen as an acceptable girlfriend by the elder Abbars, and was even seen as an acceptable wife if she became a Muslin. Surprisingly, it was amazingly easy for an Italian Catholic woman from New York to convert, and she would go visit Saudi Arabia.
This is when the story really got interesting, because life in Jeddah was shockingly different for women than life in the United States. She would hear horror stories about what happened to various women, and even became involved in an incident that could have got her jailed and worse. Did this highly educated, free-thinking 22-year-old get out of Saudi Arabia as fast as she could. Physically, yes, but she ended up back there after quickly marrying her beloved in Europe.
Why did she go ahead and marry him, knowing they would soon be returning to Jeddah to live? Ms. Bonis gives all sorts of reasons throughout the story, and some are understandable and believable. Marriage proved to be a rocky ride, though, with her husband becoming a hugely different person after marrying. Two children would eventually be born, and what happened after Patricia Bonnis filed for divorce was devastating for any mother. Yet the story ends on a most positive note.

Imagine being a young college student and thinking you’ve met the man of your dreams? That is what Patricia thought was happening when she met Rahman.
But her life became less than dreamy when she was thrust in Saudi society where her non-existent rights were masked under a financial privileged life and status.
We follow Patricia’s seemingly jet-set life, but underneath is a life full of uncertainties and deception which eventually leads to divorce and the kidnapping of her 2 children by their father.
I am glad I read this book because I had never had such a close-up look about Saudi society before. That being said, and taking into account that I read an ARC copy of the book, I feel that the book could’ve been edited a bit more, sometimes I felt that I kept reading the same thing over and over and it felt dragged out.
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