This book was hard for me to pick because I am a 35 year old single woman who has no damn clue what she's doing when it comes to dating. I thought this was a well-researched, well documented and well written book. I find it refreshing that his viewpoint has changed so much from his previous book. That he's grown and wrote this one in order to share what he learned since his previous works. He's not claiming to be the most knowledgeable person in the world when it comes to these issues but he has researched his own assumptions and I think that's great. And rare. And I found the statistics and the findings in this book to be fascinating.

Does it work? That's probably the question a lot of people are wanting to know the answer to. Does this book give you the answer? And the trouble is I don't know. I know that what previous dating books have told me to do didn't work. And I also know that I've been doing this fresh make your move approach based off of stuff that I had learned before I ever even read this book. Before I even reading it, I had adopted his views. But I'm still single. So I don't know if this book has all the answers but I do know that I found it useful and logically he makes a very sound point. But it's not a love potion. This book will not magically make you somebody who gets to have a happy relationship. I wish there were books with such power. But what it might do is give you more information to weigh in order to choose to do what you think makes the most sense. In this book, he gives you strategies, using a new paradigm, to go after love and get it. It encourages you to take action, and risk rejection, and in a sense, be the master of your own destiny.

Thank you #netgalley for giving me the chance to read this book in exchange for an honest review.

I agreed with nearly everything in this book. However, the chapter on reconnecting with lost love -- in my experience, not every early love interest ages that well. I had a huge crush on a guy in college. When I Googled him many years later, the first thing that popped up in the Google results was his mugshot. He was divorced, the economy was crashing (2008) and I think his real estate investments must have been underwater. The mugshot was from his third DUI, which I think after the third one the state of Florida just posts your mugshot online for the whole world to see. So, while marrying young is one way to do it, marrying before age 25 isn't usually wise. The divorce rates for those early marriages are high, and not ever person you meet in college will turn out the way you think. My crush was a really nice guy with a lot of potential back in the day. But he lacked resilience in the face of adversity - which is something you really can't measure easily at that age. You will find out later if your guy can bounce back from adversity or whether he slides into some toxic coping mechanisms. But everything else in the book made sense to me. I think the Facebook strategy could be a little awkward, but the potential payoff is good. So yes, I would recommend most, if not all, the advice in this book.

This book is so good! I requested it after listening to a podcast episode of Girls Gotta Eat in which Jon Birger was a guest, and it really made me curious about the book! It’s both easy to follow AND interesting, which is difficult to achieve in nonfictions.

I enjoyed the start of this book, it came across as quite empowering and the author Empathetic. I liked how the stats were backed up by stories however I felt some of the advice was very dated. Dont focus on your career but find a man isn't very 2021 and towards the middle to end of the book you lost me. I feel you can tell this book is written by an older male who isn't currently dating.

It also grated on me that there was such heavy promotion throughout the book about the authors blog. Im not reading the blog or promoting you on social media im here reading the book so focus on that. In some chapters it was non stop.

I think more examples to back up points would have been better research rather than one example to fit the point. It didn't feel very scientific and there were lots of sweeping statements.

I enjoyed the beginning but found myself skim reading towards the end which is a shame.

Thank you for the arc.

I learned a lot about dating and coming out of my shell while reading this book. It engaged my brain to think and analyze myself and my priorities in life more and where dating is ranked in that. I loved how thought-provoking this book is and how it gives not just tips and advice, but confidence to women as well.