Make Your Move

“Make Your Move is perfect and perfectly timed for me, personally . . . I will now go forth bolder than ever! With data and real-life examples of women who have taken command of their dating lives, Make Your Move will give you the skills and the confidence you need to win at love.”

—Ylonda Gault, author of Child, Please: How Mama’s Old-School Lessons Helped Me Check Myself Before I Wrecked Myself

“As a dating coach of 15+ years, I have always recommended that female clients take control of their love lives and witnessed how that consistently leads to more matches than a chivalry-led strategy. Make Your Move expertly outlines this argument and gives women the tools to find quality partners in this changing dating landscape.”

—Damona Hoffman, advice columnist for the LA Times and host of The Dates & Mates Podcast

“Dating's old 'rules' don't work anymore. Today's new era demands a new guidebook for how to seek and create lasting relationships. Thankfully we have Jon Birger, who weaves analytical research, exhaustive reporting, and fun storytelling into practical counsel that moves past all the outdated thinking and tired advice on dating.”

—Sridhar Pappu, "The Male Animal" columnist for the New York Times

“Jon Birger's new book explains why traditional dating advice fails so many of these women—pushing them to play games or conceal career goals just to land a man. I highly recommend Make Your Move to women who are frustrated with the state of modern dating.”

—Dr. Lynn Westphal, chief medical officer of Kindbody and former director of Stanford University’s Fertility Preservation Program

“In his seminal Date-onomics, Jon Birger showed how the dating odds are stacked against even the most accomplished women. In Make Your Move, he's reshuffled the deck so that single women have the upper hand. In the high-stakes dating game, Jon Birger offers modern women a winning chance at love.” 

—Melanie Notkin, author of OTHERHOOD: Modern Women Finding a New Kind of Happiness

"Jon Birger brings an economist's scientific rigor and a magazine writer's lively writing to the topic of romantic relationships and the high-achieving woman's search for love. If Freakonomics and Liza Mundy's The Richer Sex had a love child, it might be Make Your Move."

—Stephanie Mehta, editor in chief of Fast Company

"If you're frustrated with the transactional approach to romance fostered by dating apps, Jon Birger's new book offers a refreshing alternative. Navigating the dating world through the lens of science, Make Your Move gives successful women tools and solutions for finding marriage-minded, romantic partners. An honest and compelling read, Make Your Move provides reassurance and hope for singles looking for their dream match."

—Amy Andersen, founder of Linx Dating and "the matchmaker of Silicon Valley" as dubbed by Vogue

“Smart, fun, and fast-paced, Make Your Move blends anecdotal storytelling about finding love with the latest research on the biology and psychology of dating—research that debunks so much of the conventional wisdom women have been raised on. If you're ready for a new approach for finding a partner, buy Make Your Move!”

—Jean Chatzky, bestselling author, financial editor at Today, and host of the HerMoney Podcast

“Jon Birger seamlessly weaves together stories, scientific research, and compelling advice on rethinking the outdated gender norms preventing many single women from finding meaningful romantic relationships. With its counterintuitive but critically important message, Make Your Move is a dynamic read for single women of all ages.”

—Marcia Inhorn, professor of anthropology at Yale University and leading expert on rising global demand for infertility treatments