Description
“ Can you love more than one person?” A lot of conversations about nonmonogamy start this way. When we discuss “opening” relationships, contemplate whether we want to be exclusive with our partners, or introduce multiple partners to friends and family, we are asking the people in our lives, and ourselves, to contend with this question. The answer is obvious, and misleading. The love one feels in their heart and the love one expresses through daily acts of care and affection are both “love” in the true sense, but they have different requirements, present different options and produce different outcomes. More Than Two can’ t promise outcomes, but it is a guide to the paths— from anchor or nesting partnerships to relationship anarchy— possible within nonmonogamy.

‘More Than Two’ by Eve Rickert is a comprehensive guide that delves into the complexities of nonmonogamous relationships, offering invaluable insights for both newcomers and experienced practitioners of polyamory. As someone who has embraced nonmonogamy for several years, I found this second edition to be a well-refined and thoughtful exploration of the subject. The book emphasises the importance of cultivating relationships with kindness and integrity, a message that resonates deeply in today’s evolving landscape of human connection.

Accuracy: ★★★★★
Rickert’s approach to nonmonogamy is grounded in both personal experience and a wealth of research. The book is filled with real-life examples, ethical considerations, and practical advice, all of which are presented with remarkable accuracy. Rickert’s careful attention to detail ensures that the information is not only correct but also applicable in a variety of relationship dynamics. Her commitment to providing accurate, nuanced insights is evident throughout the book.

Perspective: ★★★★★
Rickert offers a deeply empathetic and inclusive perspective on nonmonogamy. She recognizes that every relationship is unique and encourages readers to explore what works best for them, without imposing a one-size-fits-all solution. Her emphasis on kindness, communication, and mutual respect sets a compassionate tone that is both refreshing and empowering. Rickert’s perspective is particularly valuable for those navigating the challenges of nonmonogamy while striving to maintain integrity in their relationships.

Relevance: ★★★★★
As nonmonogamy continues to gain visibility and acceptance, ‘More Than Two’ is more relevant than ever. Rickert addresses the evolving nature of relationships in the 21st century, offering guidance that is both timely and timeless. The book’s focus on ethical nonmonogamy makes it an essential read for anyone looking to build meaningful, consensual relationships in today’s diverse and dynamic world. Its relevance extends beyond the polyamorous community, offering insights that can benefit anyone interested in deepening their understanding of love, connection, and ethical relating.

Engagement: ★★★★★
Rickert’s writing is both engaging and thought-provoking. The book is filled with relatable anecdotes, reflective questions, and practical exercises that encourage active participation from the reader. Rickert’s ability to present complex ideas in a clear and compelling way makes the book an enjoyable and intellectually stimulating read. The second edition also includes updated content that reflects the latest developments in the field, keeping the reader engaged and informed.

Readability: ★★★★★
The book is exceptionally well-written, with a clear and accessible style that makes it easy to follow. Rickert’s ability to distil complex concepts into straightforward language ensures that readers of all backgrounds can benefit from the book’s insights. The structure of the book is logical and well-organized, with each chapter building on the previous one to create a cohesive and comprehensive guide. The addition of summaries and key takeaways at the end of each chapter enhances the book’s readability, making it a practical resource for both quick reference and in-depth study.

Enjoyment: ★★★★★
‘More Than Two’ is not only informative but also a pleasure to read. Rickert’s warmth, humour, and sincerity shine through, making the book both enjoyable and inspiring. Her passion for ethical nonmonogamy and her commitment to helping others navigate their relationships with integrity is palpable on every page. Readers will find themselves not only learning from the book but also feeling uplifted and empowered by its message.


‘More Than Two’ by Eve Rickert is a must-read for anyone interested in exploring nonmonogamous relationships with kindness and integrity. The second edition builds on the strengths of the original, offering updated insights and practical advice that are both relevant and impactful. Rickert’s thoughtful approach, combined with her engaging writing style, makes this book an invaluable resource for anyone looking to cultivate ethical, meaningful connections in their lives. Whether you are new to nonmonogamy or a seasoned practitioner, ‘More Than Two’ will inspire you to approach your relationships with greater empathy, understanding, and care.

Extremely excited to receive a copy of the new edition of More Than Two. I've been waiting years for this!
Thank you to Thornapple Press & NetGalley for the ARC.

Eve Rickert has done it again, with Andrea Zanin as a co-author. This edition feels more inclusive and points out the colonist and imperialist mindset that centres amatonormativity as the end-all, be-all. I loved Kim TallBear's introduction and the fact that they mention updated references like Polysecure, the new "bible" of the non-monogamous set. As someone who *is* non-monogamous and polyamorous, this is one of the books that was suggested most when I tried to explore alternative relationship styles. The interdependence on other literature and conversing with other works felt wholesome and indicative of the authors and their generosity. For Rickert to provide more resources despite being one of the pioneers of representation, is excellent. It feels like a completely different book from the original in many ways. It is borrowing from disability justice pioneers like Mia Mingus, and introducing more inclusive identities and examples. Rickert and Zanin, though both white, are inspired by Black abolitionist leaders, disability justice pioneers, queer elders and theorists-- citing them and giving them space to decolonize the Western hegemony that prevails.

I'd say think of this book as a friendly reminder that the wide spectrum of humanity is vast and ultimately, relationships are about being kind to one another. I'm appreciative and can't wait to write a more detailed review of this when the final version is out.

The first edition made me a better person. Not from having read it once-few books work that way-but from subsequent readings and frequent reviews of my notes and highlights. Now this one comes along and exceeds the original in every dimension. Kindness, maturity, wisdom, and thoughtfulness. The voice is gentler but also much more secure about self and boundaries and respect. If you are in any sort of relationship involving human beings (including your self), this book needs to be part of your toolkit.

I've been resisting the lure of prepubs for years; this is the book that I could not wait for and made me sign up with netgalley. My thanks to them for the advance copy.

I absolutely adore this book and the fact that there's a new edition makes my heart sing. The new content really adds to the experience and clarifies some of the problematic language from the first edition. I can't wait to see what the general polyamorous community think of this newer edition.