This is a stunning book--it gets deep and dark into exploring the questions that might not have answers. Where is God in the midst of pain? What happens when the answers given aren't good enough? Bays doesn't pull any punches, he gets down to reality and joins the Christ follower there to find hope.

Raw and honest.

This book has touched me enormously. As everybody who has been faced (or who has been fighting) with the question of : God, why had/have you let THIS happen/happening to me? - I got and I am overwhelmed by the depth of anger, suffering and questioning Mr Bays is showing here. Don´t get me wrong - I think that all the people (the more sensitive maybe more/inmore depth, maybe!) feel this. But Mr Bays is very honest to SHOW you his pain, anger and doubt to the core.
And he is also astonishingly honest to speak about the very taboo subject (and more, he was a pastor when writing the book) - sexual abuse. And the worst of the words: incest.
Ah. Just for this honesty: kudos.
The honesty is healing.

And some of the thoughts are healing, too. Like that that God is not just simply with us in the moment of our pain, but that He is violated with us. This is not the new thought for me, but in this context it got a whole new dimension.

So why just 3 stars?
Honestly, am I am pained to write this - I don´t think that the author has been healed/partly healed (as presented). I know that the healing is the way, not the destination. I will try to explain - there is a lot of emotion going around. I, as fellow "emotionalist" - see the emotions, and the truth that is connected to them, but I am also beware of power of emotions, and they are not always a reality. There is something, let´s say "unfinished", maybe "unhealed", maybe just getting at the another circle of pain/solution.

So I would recommend to go the way with this book, cry and suffer with it, it is a worthy guide. But take more guides on the way, not just this one.