“Borderline personality disorder (BPD), which can be difficult for clinicians to manage, can also be painful for families and loved ones. They need help to avoid conflict and to respond in helpful ways. This book, written in highly accessible language, provides many practical tips on communicating about intense emotions and understanding troubled people.”
—Joel Paris, MD, professor in the department of psychiatry at McGill University, and author of Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder

“Those who struggle to keep the peace with difficult people in their daily lives will find these explanations and strategies extremely informative and helpful. You can be effective, and Jerold Kreisman will show you how!”
—Sandy Hotchkiss, PsyD, LCSW, author of Why Is It Always About You?

“For anyone who loves, lives with, or must care for a person struggling with BPD, Jerold Kreisman has written another useful guide full of empathic and pragmatic techniques. All too often, interactions with these individuals prove to be confusing, painful, and sometimes infuriating; Kreisman outlines a detailed approach for coping and keeping your head. As a clinician who has worked with individuals who suffer from this disorder, as well as the people who know them, I found his guidance to harmonize with my own experience and to echo the advice I often give to my own clients.”
—Joseph Burgo, PhD, psychotherapist, Psychology Today blogger, and author of The Narcissist You Know, Why Do I Do That?, and the forthcoming Shame

“The lessons in respectful listening and mindful speech offered by this book will serve a broad audience. Ultimately, everyone struggles—to some degree or another—to understand and be understood. My commitment to feminist critiques of psychiatric categories leads me to be cautious around diagnostic terminology that labels one person in a conflict as disordered, but with that caveat in mind, I think of this book as an instruction in the ‛humble warrior’ pose of difficult conversations, as it advocates strength, balance, and grace in communicating with clients and loved ones who experience heightened interpersonal sensitivities. I can’t think of qualities more necessary in the current moment than those modeled here by Kreisman: support, empathy, truth, understanding, and perseverance.”
—Merri Lisa Johnson, professor of women’s and gender studies at USC Upstate, and author of Girl in Need of a Tourniquet

“Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder is a much-needed book for loved ones of someone with BPD, as well as for psychotherapists. I’ve had many clients throughout my forty years as a therapist who are at their wit’s end when it comes to knowing how to communicate with a BPD loved one without the conversation escalating into an argument. Kreisman presents effective strategies to help readers learn how to communicate in the best way possible to ensure that they are heard, and their loved one doesn’t feel humiliated or blamed. I will recommend this book to many of my clients and colleagues.”
—Beverly Engel, LMFT, author of It Wasn’t Your Fault