Buddha's Bedroom
The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy
by Cheryl Fraser
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Pub Date Feb 28 2019 | Archive Date Jan 16 2019
New Harbinger Publications, Inc. | New Harbinger
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Description
In this playful and sexually savvy guide, "Dr. Cheryl" Fraser presents enlivening mindfulness exercises, techniques from couples and sex therapy, and the wisdom of Buddhist teachings to help you spark the passion and thrill you've been seeking in your relationship. With this book, couples can break free from the monotony of familiar routines and bring a little nirvana back to the bedroom for a more exciting, loving, and fulfilling connection.
The beginning of a relationship is always thrilling-butterflies in the stomach; that sense that someone really gets you; that "love drunk," "walking on air" feeling. But as time goes by, and the tedium of daily life intervenes, you may find yourself too busy, tired, or just unmotivated to devote quality time and attention to the connection you crave. So, how do you uncover the passion and thrill you're longing for, and how can you make it last?
Inside Buddha's Bedroom, you'll discover how the essential Buddhist teachings of mindfulness and awakening can be applied to your love life-showing that true passion absolutely is sustainable, if you're willing to shift your perspective. By exploring your deepest desires and expectations, and also learning to see your partner as they really are, without the need for them to change, you'll be able to create a deep and mindfully loving connection for a fabulous relationship And with these spiritually scintillating tips and techniques, you'll have the keys to igniting and sustaining all the thrill, intimacy, and sensuality you seek.
Advance Praise
“True
mastery is rare and precious—and Cheryl Fraser is truly a master of her
subject. Written with a wonderful combination of simplicity and thoroughness,
heart and intellect, and profundity and practicality, this is a phenomenal book
on intimate sensuality, and equally excellent about communication skills and
mindful awareness. Wow—a wonderful book.”
—Rick Hanson, PhD, author of Buddha’s Brain
“Sacred
sex. Prolonged pleasure. Conscious climax. It’s all part of using your sexual
bliss energy to become an awakened lover, and Cheryl Fraser—a renowned Buddhist
psychologist—is your guide to transcendent sex.”
—Ian Kerner, sex therapist, and author of the New York Times bestseller, She Comes First
“Fraser asks pointedly, ‘Why add the wisdom teachings of Buddhism to a book about passion? Quite simply, because they work.’ Buddha’s Bedroom folds the wisdom of Buddha Dharma into the practicalities of love and sex to form a beautiful, thoughtful, and compassionate window into how ‘old sex’ can become new again. She shares her meditation exercises that she has used with countless couples in Buddha’s Bedroom, and teaches the reader how to awaken the passion that has been sleeping inside them.
This
book is for anyone in a love relationship who wants to fall in love again (with
the same person), and is willing to examine within themselves to discover that
they possess the key to happiness. Fraser weaves in real stories from the
couples who have walked the path with her, along with her own candid (and
entertaining) experiences to illustrate to the reader how to bring Buddha back
into the bedroom. I will recommend this book to my own clients (and friends!)
and suggest that they clip each of the ‘Love Bytes’ and ‘Buddha Bytes’
scattered throughout the book!”
—Lori A. Brotto, PhD, registered psychologist, Canada research chair in women’s
sexual health, professor at the University of British Columbia, and author of Better Sex Through Mindfulness
“Sex
and spirituality have been awkward bedfellows for as long as anyone can
remember, and now we live in an era with plenty of chaos, confusion,
misunderstanding, and contention about sexual roles and sexual acts. Here comes
Cheryl Fraser to offer clarity, encouragement, and some very sound advice about
how to ignite passion while remaining aware. She lets us know how we can dance
and share with another—lovingly—and with the kind of mindfulness that doesn’t
drape a big, wet blanket over the proceedings.”
—Barry Boyce, editor-in-chief of Mindful magazine
“Cheryl Fraser has done a remarkable job of combining expertise as a sex therapist and relationship counselor with decades of Buddhist practice. Buddha’s Bedroom guides readers to develop and sustain strong, healthy relationships, including passion and intimacy in the bedroom, through the power of mindfulness and applications of Buddha’s teachings. At the same time, she performs an invaluable service to rapidly growing numbers of lay people embracing meditation and Buddhism as the path to a better life.
Buddhist
teachings, traditionally the province of celibate monastics, can be confusing
for lay practitioners when it comes to relationships, sensuality, and
sexuality. Freedom from desire as a Buddhist goal seems inconsistent with
sexuality in particular. However, Fraser does a beautiful job of demonstrating
how the transient lust that relationships begin with can be transformed into an
expression of love, compassion, and a manifestation of the Seven Factors of
Awakening.”
—Culadasa (John Yates, PhD), spiritual
director and chair of Dharma Treasure Buddhist Sangha, and author
of The Mind Illuminated and Brain Science for Greater Mindfulness
“Fraser brings
a fresh, enlightening voice to relationship literature. She applies a spectrum
of Buddhist principles and practices to the inevitable suffering that arises in
the quest for enduring love. Whether schooled in Buddhism or newly discovering
its wisdom, readers will find abundant, readily accessible tools for handling
disappointments and conflict, and overcoming negative reactivity. Buddha’s
Bedroom is inspiration and guide for a lifelong journey of mindfully
engaged, joyful, passionate intimacy.”
—Miranda Shaw, PhD, associate professor of religious studies
at the University of Richmond, and author of Passionate Enlightenment
and Buddhist Goddesses of India
“Cheryl
Fraser faced a daunting task in writing a book which integrates sex, love, and
meditation. Buddha’s Bedroom is a
unique book in presenting readers with a love Dharma that teaches couples to
value intimacy and passion. The message of Buddha’s Bedroom is that if
you utilize Buddhist principles to focus on your own mind, passion in your
relationship will be enhanced. Her exercises, especially the Buddhist skill of
mindfulness, empower and motivate couples to be awaken lovers.”
—Barry McCarthy, PhD, is a professor in the department of psychology at
American University, and coauthor of Finding Your Sexual Voice
“Cheryl
Fraser puts power back into her readers’ hands—and minds—by helping them
realize that they are in control of their own happiness, reawakening passion
and enriching their sex lives in a loving, mindful manner along with some
changes in behavior. I’m looking forward to sharing her words of wisdom,
couples skills, and mindfulness techniques with my clients so that they too can
bring Buddha into their bedrooms.”
—Sara Dimerman (aka helpmesara), psychologist, and author of several
books, including Why Married Couples
Don't have Sex
“Cheryl
Fraser, in her beautifully written and engaging book, Buddha’s Bedroom, reminded me how the power of
presence and intention can vitalize and sustain a romantic relationship. As
well as being simply fun to read, I found the book to be useful in many ways.
From building curiosity in the bedroom to falling in love with your partner
over and over again to practicing the skills of lovemaking, Fraser has created
a meaningful book that, whether single or partnered, all can relish. Awareness
to the joy of love and sex is a wonderful way to live inside of relationship.
My gratitude for a fantastic book!”
—Robyn D. Walser, PhD, licensed clinical psychologist, coauthor of
The Mindful Couple, and
author of The Heart of ACT
“If
you’re looking for a guide to lasting connection, passion, and ultimately more
love in your life—inside and outside the bedroom—you’ll want to pick up this
book. Cheryl not only lays out the path to greater sexual intimacy and
happiness, but also practical skills that we can all do to enhance our lives
and ultimately bring more love into the world.”
—Elisha Goldstein, PhD, creator of A Course in Mindful Living
Available Editions
EDITION | Other Format |
ISBN | 9781684031184 |
PRICE | £12.99 (GBP) |
PAGES | 208 |