Unruly

“On these pages, Shelah is the voice of our best friend, holding up a mirror in our faces while sharing her transformative testimony and radical wisdom, inviting us to be honest about how we got here and what we are willing to be unwavering about to get to our highest imaginations of ourselves. Unruly will ask you to ‘Become.’ And so you will.” —EbonyJanice, author of All the Black Girls Are Activists

“If you are looking for a nuanced, bold, and clearly outlined approach to adorning yourself in your unique crown of Black excellence that you were born with but often stripped of, this book will live on your nightstand. Additionally, for those who are a part of or allies to the Black community, who are seeking to understand how to love Black women within their realities to their highest potential, Unruly is an invaluable resource.” —Shan Boodram, sex and relationship expert on Netflix’s Too Hot to Handle

“What Shelah is doing with Unruly is truly groundbreaking! Through her transparency and vulnerability, she invites us on a journey of honesty and reflection. She challenges us to give ourselves permission to change our minds about who we thought we were and who we thought we had to be. Shelah serves as a model of rebellion and growth, and that guides us as we journey through our own healing. As a therapist, I love and appreciate the radical approach to healing and authenticity that Unruly provides!” —Dr. Ebony, creator of My Therapy Cards

“In Unruly, Shelah Marie offers exactly the kind of no-nonsense and loving advice you’d expect from a big sister or longtime friend. Filled with deeply personal stories, thoughtful questions, and actionable steps, this is a beautiful guide that will no doubt inspire and motivate young women for years to come.” —Franchesca Ramsey, creator and host of MTV Decoded and author of Well, That Escalated Quickly

“In Unruly, Shelah unapologetically highlights the grace and power of Black womanhood, delivering a transformative guide to self-discovery and embracing authenticity. This book is a beacon of inspiration and essential reading for anyone looking to own their truth and uncover their resilience and power.” —Justin Michael Williams, author of Stay Woke

“With Unruly, Shelah provides a road map for undoing all that we have been taught we need to be, do, and perceive to earn the title of ‘good’ as a Black woman. This book doesn’t just talk about what it means to be authentic to self—the exercises guide the reader through tangible ways to experience and embody the concepts discussed. Shelah demonstrates her commitment to freedom of the everyday Black woman with this work. It’s not just about the ‘talk’ but also in ‘action.’” —Melissa Ifill, LCSW, therapist and coach

“Shelah’s knack for bridging wellness with approachability is something that women of color have searched for, far and wide. Shelah doesn’t preach at you; she walks with you. Unruly is the permission slip, and cerebral bus ticket, to your next level of understanding self. For those looking for a safe space to do the work—pull up a seat.” —Evita Robinson, writer and founder of NOMADNESS Travel Tribe