This is a nice, lovely, quick read, but not a light one. It is a collection of short stories, each one going deep and feeling raw and real. Nothing is fully explained, but you get a feeling of having had a glimpse of what goes on behind closed doors. The rest is all up to you; interpret it as you wish and as you see fit.

CAN I HAVE A HUG FIRST? by Mary Paula Hunter is a very unique set of short stories that follow a wide cast of characters ranging from a hesitant landlord to an anxious dance instructor and even to a narcissistic divorcé. One aspect that solidifies Hunter's unique line up of stories is the line she blurs between reality and delusion. I'm still not quite sure what actually happened in some of these stories versus what I was told happened. Her exploration of unreliable narrators is particularly alluring since you get the feeling that the narrators truly beleive what they tell us, so as the reader, in just a few short pages, we have to decide what is happening behind the curtain, if anything is. This cleaves a long-lasting taste from these short stories because regardless of how short they are, you have to really put yourself into them.
There were a few stories, particularly in the beginning where I thought I didn't "get" them, but as I read through, I began to believe that was the point. I don't think Hunter wants us to "get" them, rather to explore the madness in the world unrestrained.
I don't think this book is for everyone, but I do think the right reader will enjoy this journey through delusion from all different angles.
A huge thank you to Netgalley and Unsolicited Press for providing me with a free ARC in exchange for an honest review.

Can I Have a Hug First? by Mary Paula Hunter is a beautifully heartfelt memoir that delves into the complexities of motherhood, caregiving, and the emotional depth that comes with being a parent to a special-needs child. This book offers readers an honest, introspective view into the author’s life as she navigates the unpredictable yet profoundly rewarding experience of raising her son, Sam, who has Down syndrome.

Hunter writes with raw candor and a refreshing sense of humor, inviting readers to share in her joys, struggles, and the daily hurdles that come with her unique role. The title itself, *Can I Have a Hug First?*, is a tender nod to the warmth and love Sam brings into her life—reminding readers of the simple, yet deeply meaningful moments that can make even the most challenging situations feel worthwhile.

One of the most striking aspects of this memoir is the author’s ability to capture her son’s vibrant personality and the strength of their bond. Through the lens of Hunter’s personal journey, readers gain insight into the resilience required of parents who face societal expectations and the lack of resources for families with special-needs children. Hunter’s candid reflections on these obstacles not only raise awareness but also shine a light on the resilience and unwavering love that keep her going.

The narrative is both intimate and universal, making *Can I Have a Hug First?* resonate with a broad audience. It’s a touching portrayal of how Hunter redefines success, happiness, and fulfillment through her relationship with her son, ultimately finding beauty in the challenges and rewards of their journey together.

In summary, *Can I Have a Hug First?* is a moving, thought-provoking read that offers both an honest perspective on the demands of caregiving and an inspiring testament to the power of unconditional love. Hunter's story is an invitation to embrace the moments that truly matter, reminding us all that sometimes, all we need is a hug first.