“What a fantastic book… like reading a mystery, racing to see what happens …and then finding clarity and the triumph of the ending. It was an extraordinary experience… I’ve never felt quite this way before with any book.” — Abigail Thomas, New York Times bestselling author of A Three Dog Life

“DeLuca’s memoir blends brilliance, raw emotion, humor, and extraordinary insight, examining with crystalline honesty how a spouse can blindside a profoundly loving and committed partner. Her willingness to dig through ‘his and hers’ sins of omission and commission and the family history underlying actions that set the scene for disaster provides a remarkably candid read. DeLuca cuts through the layers of longing and grief to find truth and comfort, gifting the reader with the most satisfying of reads, providing both page-turning ‘gotta know’ and deeply rewarding conclusions.” — Randy Susan Meyers, international bestselling author of WAISTED

“DeLuca’s memoir is gripping and emotionally stirring as it weaves together grief, laughter, outrage, and redemption. She speaks directly about the shock and upheaval of betrayal, of what it means to confront change at a stage of life when we often expect complacency. DeLuca is a master clinician at work on herself, charging fearlessly down the path of making sense of it all. There are no simple villains and victims here, but full people. Her rare combination of beautiful writing, cool mindedness and warm loving heart make for a deep meditation on humanity from which you emerge changed.” — Orna Guralnik, psychologist, psychoanalyst and star of hit Showtime series Couples Therapy

“I love If You Must Go, I Wish you Triplets! Reading Ginny Deluca is like sitting across from your funniest, wisest friend over coffee. Her story of late life love and loss is layered and rich, and endlessly interesting. Deluca got me to think more deeply about my relationships, about how we make space for each other’s hurts, and how to best tend to our own.” — Alysia Abbott, writer, teacher, speaker, and author of the acclaimed memoir FAIRYLAND: A Memoir of My Father

“Ginny DeLuca takes us through the terrain of love and loss in middle-age with grace, incredible humor and insight. I had so much fun reading it. I could not put this book down. I was desperate to know what happened to the heroine. Buy one for yourself, and another one for your best friend.” — Sarah Ruhl, two-time Pulitzer Prize finalist, playwright, author of the memoir, Smile

“This intimate, vulnerable memoir is an absolute pleasure to read, by turns hilarious, frank, and full of wisdom, making it difficult to put down. Readers will love Virgina DeLuca’s voice and the central lesson of her story: When we think we’re searching for answers from others, we’re really searching for ourselves.” — Maya Shanbhag Lang, author of acclaimed memoir of What We Carry

“If You Must Go, I Wish You Triplets is a testament to the vital force that is radical self-love, particularly later in life. With a psychotherapist’s attention, and in compassionate, deeply moving and evocative prose, Virginia DeLuca examines the loss and grief-land a woman in her sixties must navigate after her husband leaves. What she finds is that loving fearlessly, no matter how the story ends, is the only thing worth planning in life. This is a beautiful book that speaks to us all, a poignant exploration of family and self-love full of humor, truth, and tenderness.” — Ani Gjika, award winning poet, and literary translator, and the author of the memoir An Unruled, Body, winner of Restless Books’ 2021 Prize

“This book stacks losses like stone in a seaside sulpture—making beautiful what would otherwise be plain and simply hardened. Through a painful narrative of betrayal and backstory, Virgina DeLuca shows us that second chances can be worth it, even if they end up requiring a third act. I would recommend this book to anyone who might need the reminder that on the other side of today: is tomorrow; and until then: we have rom-coms to help us pass the time.” — Theresa Okokon, award-winning writer, storyteller, and teacher. Her first book is the essay collection Who I Always Was

“As you travel with Ginny through grief-land, you’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll undoubtedly want to punch her husband, but most of all, you’ll learn how to overcome the unthinkable with grace and purpose. A therapist’s hilarious, yet wise perspective and must-read for anyone navigating betrayal.” — Karen Kirsten, international seller of Irena’s Gift: An Epic WWII Memoir of Sisters, Secrets, and Survival

“If You Must Go, I Wish You Triplets is one of the most honest, raw, and satisfying memoirs I have read. In a voice that invites the reader in close and never falters, Virginia Deluca, a therapist who believes she should have known better, creates a stunning memoir about the shock of betrayal and divorce during her sixties. Deluca’s fierce self-searching, humor, and willingness to share the roller coaster ride left me breathless, grateful for every page.” — Linda Katherine, author of Memory Slips, A is for Always, and the forthcoming Black Angel