Unrecognized and devastating – gambling addiction affects two million Americans but even more hidden are the loved ones that become innocent victims. “Know When to Hold ‘Em: A guide for spouses of problem gamblers” is a resource specifically written with the spouse in mind and is focused on healing techniques for loved ones and the couple.

Problem gambling is a treatable but traumatic addiction that has a significant impact beyond the gambler. The deception, loss of security, and perceived hopelessness experienced by the spouse can lead to emotional disengagement, and often the destruction of the family unit. Problem gambling is traumatic for the spouse and family, initiating common chain reactions that result in depression, anxiety, divorce, and ultimately recovery failure for the gambler. This book takes the approach of understanding the symptoms and behaviors as they relate to the experience of trauma, and goes beyond the treatment of addiction.

Treating the problem gambler is not enough. The spouse needs just as much guidance, education, and support. Arguably the emotional impact on the spouse creates the necessity for recovery efforts to include resources for the spouse particularly when families and relationships are on the line. In “Know When to Hold ‘Em: A guide for spouses of problem gamblers”, Damon Dye, Ed.D., LMHC, provides valuable information for the innocent victim – the spouse who is left to rebuild the family finances, protect the children from the fallout, and determine if they can ever trust their wife or husband again.

Gamblers, spouses, loved ones and clinicians will find guidance and tools for choosing treatment, improving communication, rebuilding relationships, and creating the best environment for recovery and marital happiness. Gambling addicts and their families face tough realities, but there is help and hope.