This is a great, robust look at asexual and aromantic experiences and identities, with a wide range of voices and a refreshingly candid discussion of the author's own gaps and limitations (as a relatively privileged white person w/ ample Internet access as a teen). I loved all of the interviews/excerpts, and I thought the book was divided into cohesive, logical sections. I'd highly recommend this, though it is a bit long.

My Rating: 5/5 stars

My Thoughts: This is a book that I wish I had when I was growing up, because even though I now know what I identify as, I still learned so much about myself and my identity by reading this book. It’s hard identifying as aspec in a world that is thinks its unnatural, and this book made me realize I wasn’t alone!

I loved how the author interviewed aspec individuals to get their points of view. And I also loved that the author gave their own experiences and views as well! My favorite part of the book was reading about the different types of identities in aspec. Some of them I had never heard of before and found myself relating to them! I personally like labels because it helps me put a word to how I’m feeling, but not everyone feels that way.

Overall, if you identify as aspec or want to learn more about the asexual, aromatic, demi, and grey-ace identities I definitely recommend this book. It was great reading from a knowledgeable author who kept people’s feelings in mind when writing this book!