A clear and concise process for couples to assess and address their individual and shared priorities and values.

This book is a fantastic resource. It’s not explicitly about how to prioritize your relationship over other things in life, as that title would suggest, but discussing each other’s priorities with your partner will help you strengthen and prioritize your relationship. This book is thoughtful and extremely thorough. Its two biggest strengths are its practical, specific tips and its focus on compassionate curiosity.

While the TDS difference scale numbers themselves feel a bit arbitrary to me, the key is having discussions about why a certain area of life is more or less important to each person. Nick Brancato is absolutely right that those discussions should be approached with a desire to understand one’s partner - not a desire to fix him or her. Brancato then offers great practical tips for how to have those discussions and how to align with your partner even if your priorities are different.

While the book is a bit repetitive, that makes its points even clearer. I definitely recommend it to couples and have already used it to have some great conversations with my spouse. 4.5 stars rounded up to 5.

Thank you to NetGalley and Health, Mind, and Body for the free eARC. I post this review with my honest opinions. The review is cross-posted on Goodreads, Instagram, and Amazon.

"Prioritize Us" by Nick Brancato is a transformative guide for couples seeking deeper alignment in their relationships. The book skillfully navigates the often-overlooked terrain of life priorities, illustrating how misalignments can subtly create tension and distance. Brancato introduces the innovative Total Difference Score (TDS), a practical tool to uncover and address priority gaps, sparking meaningful conversations. With relatable examples, like couples balancing career ambition with family time, the book demonstrates how intentional realignment can turn conflicts into opportunities for connection. Its emphasis on mutual respect and collaboration over compromise resonates deeply, offering a roadmap for lasting harmony. The actionable exercises, reflection prompts, and conversation starters make it a hands-on companion for couples at any stage. Insightful, compassionate, and practical, "Prioritize Us" is a must-read for anyone eager to build a relationship that thrives on shared vision and understanding.

Prioritize Us : Unlock Lasting Love with One Simple, Proven Test. This is a really interesting book that will open up a whole new world of possibilities for improving your relationship. It recognises the differences in values and priorities that each partner may have, and also how these will change and evolve over time. Awareness itself will make a huge difference, but the author offers tools and exercises for identifying and improving these areas. Overall a great thoughtful read that will get you thinking.

Now I'm not one for reading self help books or nonfiction but I really liked this one. I'm struggling in my relationship and this really helped me get a different perspective.